Women love to flirt. It’s fun.
If you don't know how to do it... learn. It's an invaluable skill any nice guy can use to have more attractive interactions with women.
This is typical a "nice guy" problem which is why it is here.
You set your eyes too far in the future and you get too excited when it's happening.
Really, it's great to have a woman flirting with you so...
You must remain in the present or you WILL ruin the interaction.
This tip is not here to tell you she doesn't want you or isn't feeling something for you - that couldn't be further from the truth.
It's to STOP you from reading into something which will have you leaving the present.
Like this... tell me if this happens to you.
You meet a cute girl. She seems into you. She flirts with you a little.
And just maybe you haven't been with one in a while AND you're looking for a girlfriend, which is fine... but think about what happens NEXT.
You go home thinking about her.
You imagine she's your next girlfriend.
You put together all these romantic moments in your head of you two meeting each other families, taking her out, her telling you she loves you - up to and definitely including have an amazing night of sex.
All this happens from ONE interaction just because she flirted with you and/or was overly nice to you.
Can you see the type of problem this presents and how it could ruin it for you all too easily?
You get those feelings - you have to have her - you can't wait - you become a little too needy and push her way too much causing any attraction she may have felt for you to quickly disappear.
"A sense of urgency is the feeling that if you don’t do something immediately with a woman, you’re going to lose her OR lose her to another guy OR never get her."
Do NOT set the events so far forward in your head that you lose sight of the present.
Stay in the present.
The present is where you will be the most attractive.
This is where you will act the coolest.
It is the point at which you can experience life for what it is... A series of events you can eventually look back at but you can never fully predict.
By doing so you also naturally invite women to join you because it's an incredibly fun and exciting place to live in.
The predictions you might have will do two things... put too much emphasis on getting the girl who is flirting back, and two - lead you to act differently because you assume just because she's flirting, she wants you.
Women DO love to flirt and it CAN lead somewhere but if you don't flirt with real "sexual communication" it may not mean much at all to her.
Married women flirt.
Old, and I mean really old women flirt.
Flirt with them and they will most likely give it back.
SO.. a 54-year-old women flirted with me the other day.
Does she want me?
Haha! I hope not.
The point is...
Use flirting as a skill and not as a definite sign that she likes you and you'll be much better off in the game of attraction.
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This is tip two from Chapter Three: The Nice Guy's Guide To Attracting Women.
We will explore eliminating your sense of urgency, to stop you from appearing needy, keep you in control of your emotions, stop you from trying too hard with women, and more.
Nice guys think too far into the future for many reasons and while not being in a present state of mind as often as you can - makes it very difficult to create attraction or be seen as an attractive guy.
While you learn to live in present more often with women and have them "as a guest" in YOUR reality... you'll then find making the first move much easier and happens more naturally.
Within your starter chapter you WILL learn EXACTLY what must happen and how you must make a woman feel - BEFORE she will EVER feel attracted to you... plus:
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- Avoiding rejection & overcoming social anxieties.
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