Women love to flirt.
If you don’t know how to do it… learn. It’s an invaluable skill any nice guy can use to have more attractive interactions with women.
This is typical a “nice guy” problem which is why it is here.
You set your eyes too far in the future and you get too excited when it’s happening.
Really, it’s great to have a woman flirting with you so…
You must remain in the present or you WILL ruin the interaction.
This tip is not here to tell you she doesn’t want you or isn’t feeling something for you – that couldn’t be further from the truth.
It’s to STOP you from reading into something which will have you leaving the present.
Like this… tell me if this happens to you.
You meet a cute girl. She seems into you. She flirts with you a little.
And just maybe you haven’t been with one in a while AND you’re looking for a girlfriend, which is fine… but think about what happens NEXT.
You go home thinking about her.
You imagine she’s your next girlfriend.
You put together all these romantic moments in your head of you two meeting each other families, taking her out, her telling you she loves you – up to and definitely including have an amazing night of sex.
All this happens from ONE interaction just because she flirted with you and/or was overly nice to you.
Can you see the type of problem this presents and how it could ruin it for you all too easily?
You get those feelings – you have to have her – you can’t wait – you become a little too needy and push her way too much causing any attraction she may have felt for you to quickly disappear.
“A sense of urgency is the feeling that if you don’t do something immediately with a woman, you’re going to lose her OR lose her to another guy OR never get her.”
Do NOT set the events so far forward in your head that you lose sight of the present.
Stay in the present.
The present is where you will be the most attractive.
This is where you will act the coolest.
It is the point at which you can experience life for what it is… A series of events you can eventually look back at but you can never fully predict.
By doing so you also naturally invite women to join you because it’s an incredibly fun and exciting place to live in.
The predictions you might have will do two things… put too much emphasis on getting the girl who is flirting back, and two – lead you to act differently because you assume just because she’s flirting, she wants you.
Women DO love to flirt and it CAN lead somewhere but if you don’t flirt with real “sexual communication” it may not mean much at all to her.
Married women flirt.
Old, and I mean really old women flirt.
Flirt with them and they will most likely give it back.
SO.. a 54-year-old women flirted with me the other day.
Does she want me?
Haha! I hope not.
The point is…
Use flirting as a skill and not as a definite sign that she likes you and you’ll be much better off in the game of attraction.
Use it to communicate sexually and to amplify or create attraction.
Another part of this tip is to offer you a warning about women.
They do flirt and will flirt even if it means leading you on a little but they expect YOU to lead them to the next step of dating.
Too many nice guys miss that and assume if she flirts, she must want them, therefore he can sit back and let her take the next step. Which is entirely wrong.
Yes, it’s a little confusing.
You’re expected to lead them to the next step but if you go too fast then they’ll pull back; making it extremely difficult to find the right balance and in turn tripping up lots of guys to fail with women.
Why do men come on strong to women?
“It’s because we’re in a hurry. We lack the self-discipline to slow it down.
Men want quick affection, sex, and security with a woman.
And then we want the space and relaxed distance.
Women want space and relaxed distance.
THEN they want affection, sex, and a build-up of trust and security.
Do you see how this ruins your work?
If you come on too strong, she backs off.
If you come on slow and easy (which also demonstrates confidence and self-control) she’ll go along with you.”
The key point here is to take things slow – stay in the moment – be in control of yourself and your emotions – at all times but especially around a woman who is flirting with you.
Every time you think too far ahead you make it much more difficult for you to create attraction and have real good fun with woman.
Think of it this way.
You’re talking to someone – any one, it doesn’t matter and while they’re talking you’re thinking about what you’re going to say next and what happens…
You’re not listening to them.
In your interactions with women – if you’re constantly doing those things and not listening you will NOT RESPOND in the most attractive way.
You will not connect with her emotionally.
She will actually start to feel like you’re scheming and trying to get her to do something.
You will always appear as if you’re looking for something from her.
“Never offer anything up as a kind of trade for a woman. So that she senses an agenda or there’s a deal going down.
In other words, don’t make your interaction seem like, it’s a give and take. Like you’re giving her compliments so you can get her phone number.
Or you’re giving her flattery so that she will like you. It’s another form of approval seeking right there in a lot of ways.
They can kind of sense that there’s a deal going down here. She’s going to start to wonder. She’s going to start to feel like you’re a salesman. Like she’s being sold. It’s a creepy slimy feeling for anybody to go through.”
Women do flirt and that’s a good thing.
Flirt back and enjoy it.
If you don’t know how to flirt LEARN it and start doing it often. Don’t ever be afraid to flirt.
Here’s the tip on flirting so you can learn how to do it right:
Stop selling the events so far in the future that you lose sight and control over the present – because that’s where, when, and HOW you create attraction.
If you’re too busy thinking about what to say you’ll miss those critical moments.
You’ll act from a place of urgency.
You’ll appear needy.
You’ll make her feel like you’re just trying to get something from her.
You WILL push her away the harder and faster you try to NOT make that happen.
Just because a woman is flirting with you does NOT mean you’ve just found your next girlfriend.
Stay in control of yourself and your emotions.
Take things at a natural pace and don’t rush it.
Thanks for stopping by today and I do hope this tip will stop you from pushing a woman away and help you to stay in the moment with women more often.
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All 20 Nice Guy Tips To Attract Women
1. Being Nice Has Little to do with Attraction
2. She’s Flirting With You does NOT Mean She’s Your Next Girlfriend
3. First Move – Make Sure You Make It
4. Disqualify – Don’t Reject Yourself Before She Does
5. Pity Date – Never Ask For It and Display It
6. Buy Attraction – You can not Buy Her Affecation
7. Rejected – Stop Feeling Sorry For Yourself
8. Agree Beliefs – Have Your Own Beliefs
9. Learn Funny – Humor Done the Attractive Way
10. Tease – Never Stop Doing It
11. Learn Flirt – Flirting Is an Essential Skill
12. Like Me – Never Ask A Woman This
13. Women Want – What She Says – What She Wants
14. Friend Zone – You Just Might Be In It
15. Body Language – Important Sexual Tool
16. Live Life – Living Your Own Life
17. Blame – STOP Blaming Women and Others
18. Space – Give Her What She Needs
19. Confidence – The Most Attractive Trait
20. Invest – Keep Moving Forward