Making the first move is a tough thing to do for any guy - but the nice guy tends to struggle with it the most.
It's a big reason why too many of you get thrown in the friends zone or miss out on some really good opportunities with a girl.
Which is why this is nice guy tip number 3.
When this tip was first published it was a let down because the advice given in the title was, "Don't be afraid to make the first move when the moment arrives."
Easy to say - easy to post - hard to do or help anyone when all you're saying is - don't be afraid. Right?
So - all bad advice and tips and aside, let's take care of this problem once and for all.
There are many ways to look at this to help you.
You need courage. That will eliminate MANY of your fears or help you get past them.
You need a plan. That will eliminate some of the nervousness around her.
Your plan includes making sure you're creating attraction and the right amount of sexual tension and chemistry.
You need confidence. That should help you get past the pull away or being rejected and in many areas of your life with women.
You need knowledge. Knowing things will generally give you a sense of security so you feel safe enough to make the first move.
You need skills and/or experience. Obviously the better you are at kissing, the more likely you'll be okay with making the first move AND the more experience you get from it - the easier it become.
You need to start looking at all this from HER point of view.
You also need to understand one important fact about making the first move.
(especially regarding the nice guy thing)...
When you don't make the first move - it's obvious nothing is likely to happen between you and her BUT do you know what a FIRST MOVE really is?
Guess what... it's not always a kiss. The first move only needs to be an assured movement which tells you a woman you're NOT interested in just being he friend.
Which means ANY form of intimacy which shows her you're interested in her beyond friendship (as long as it's clear and she's actually aware of it happening AND it's face to face personal) IS MAKING the FIRST MOVE.
Makes things a lot easier on you, doesn't it?
You could just lean in for a kiss while casually missing her lips and then whisper something amusing yet sexual in her ear.
That alone will send a very clear message what you are all about and that you're a nice guy who happens to be a real man too with a sexual side of course.
So the "first move" doesn't have to be a kiss - sometimes it's a real hug, hand-holding, breaking the touch barrier in a non-friendly way, brushing back her hair lightly, teasing her, and the list goes on...
ANYTHING which shows her or lets her know... it's coming and just because it didn't happen now, doesn't mean you don't want it to happen.
Let's move on...
COURAGE & Eliminating Your Fears
Rejection sucks. It really does. You know it. I know it. Women know it. Even a dog gets hurt (or acts like it) when he's rejected.
The thing is - you've probably done lots of things in your life where you had to courageous and whether it worked out or not... you got through it.
EVERYONE at some point in their life has stood up to at least one fear of theirs and made it through it.
Can you think when it happened to you?
Listen, we're talking about something trivial here and there's no "sugar-coating" it for you.
You're not putting your life on the line. You're not facing something a billion plus - yes BILLIONS have done in their life.
See it for what it is and you'll be more than just fine.
What helped me (and let me tell you this fear for me was crippling for years) was not quotes (although they were cool and all) or even encouragement... I took the easy way out.
My strategy was to just get the girl to make the first move on me. Believe me that's not as difficult as it sounds but it only got me so far. It didn't make me any more courageous.
What actually proved to help the most was to face OTHER fears in my life and then put it all in perspective. Really - just making a move on a woman became so unimportant I just went for it... and everything worked out fine.
The simplest strategy to gain courage is to put yourself in situations where you will naturally have to face your fear.
And it works.
Another helpful tip which works is to STOP putting so much emphasis on the outcome.
Think of the worst thing that could happen IF, and yes IF you get rejected and put it all in perspective.
The world won't end. It's not even the end of you and her. You could STILL get the girl. Yes, you can.
It's just a first move man - that's it.
If you have ANY problems at all with overcoming this fear and you still can not find the courage after reading this page - COMMENT ME BELOW your story or problem and I will do whatever I can to help you out.
Have a PLAN & Know What Comes Next
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This page is from Chapter Three: The Nice Guy's Guide To Attracting Women.
You'll see things from her perspective. Why it's so difficult for you to make the first move and what it does to your interactions with women.
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