Pity dates are unfortunately a bigger problem than you might believe as it relates to nice guys and women. They are also very hard to detect from your perspective making it even worse.
Today's nice guy tip number 5 deals with this issue and will show you blatantly and honestly how and why it's happening plus how to get you to STOP doing what the title suggests...
NEVER try to make a woman feel sorry for you hoping you'll get a pity date from her or in an attempt to manipulate her into feeling attracted to you.
Some guys are good at using guilt on a woman to get her to sleep with them BUT you can not use those feelings to get a woman to FEEL attraction for you.
If by some chance you do get a "pity date" out of a woman then it's guaranteed all she is doing is babysitting you in a way which guarantees she gets a free meal or night out.
My sad story...
There I was sitting next to a woman I thought I was in love with and I might've even started crying a little as we talked about my sad non-existent dating life.
I had for many months up until that fateful night considered revealing to her how long it's been since I had gotten laid (as if she didn't know) and I couldn't keep it in any longer.
It all came out so quickly and at first it felt refreshing to get it all off my chest until the response I got wasn't what I was looking for...
No - she didn't rip my clothes off. She didn't kiss me. She didn't console me by hugging me.
All she offered was a sad sigh and the worst advice you can give a guy,
"The problem is you're standards are too high and you don't get out enough. Now can we go because it's getting late."
You see I actually believed that revealing my secret would actually get her in my arms. How she'd realize how I felt about her and she'd finally see that she felt the same about me.
Which was FAR from reality.
Here's the TRUTH about attraction and if you've heard it before and are still reading then you MUST hear it again and again until you get it.
(It's in two parts.)
"Telling or showing a woman that you “like her” has no effect on how she feels about YOU.
In the moment it sure seems to make sense… “If I show her how I feel, she’ll return the feelings".
MISTAKE #2: Trying To “Convince Her To Like You”
"What do most guys do when they meet a woman that they REALLY like… but she’s just not interested?
Right! They try to “convince” the woman to feel differently.
Well, I have news for you… YOU WILL NEVER CHANGE HOW A WOMAN “FEELS” WHEN IT COMES TO ATTRACTION!
Never, ever, EVER.
You cannot CONVINCE a woman to feel differently about you with “logic and reasoning”.
When a woman just isn’t interested, we beg, plead, chase, and do our best to change her mind."
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This page is from Chapter Three: The Nice Guy's Guide To Attracting Women.
A very strange habit nice guy's have is trying to get a woman to feel attracted to him by making her feel sorry for him.
They will also attempt to extract a "pity date" from her by using the same tactic which worked on their Mother when they were younger.
This short but important tip will show you why you're trying it, why it doesn't work the way you think it should, and everything in its power to stop you from ever doing it again.
Attraction and empathy can not co-exist together. Reverting to childish ways is not how to prove to a woman you're a mature masculine man.
They are approval and insecure signs. You can never convince a woman to feel something for you.
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