Overly nice guys tend to have a problem with disagreements and confrontation in many areas of their life – making this tip invaluable.
When it comes to attracting women – being a pushover, not owning up to your own beliefs and opinions, changing your views hoping a woman will like you, and more of what will be covered below… getting this handled is important and critical.
Today’s nice guy tip number 8 is here to help you become a more attractive man by avoiding the common mistakes which are generally associated with approval seeking and a “weak sense of identity”.
“You can not walk up, approach, and for a lack of a better term, seduce a woman, with a shitty sense of your own internal value.”
That’s generally where all this “approval seeking” comes from… a feeling of low self-worth.
You wouldn’t seek or need anyone’s else approval if you (as best as you can) believed your opinions were just as valid as another’s – and that includes any woman you come in contact with everyday.
You also wouldn’t be so afraid of confrontation if you understand where most of your fears come from and your fears of “what will happen” are understood to be mainly unsubstantiated.
Sure, sometimes, rarely, very rarely, something bad might happen but most of the time NOTHING happens.
This goes for each and every interaction you have with everyone, man or woman.
In another man’s case – sure sometimes a fight might happen or you could be harmed – so the fear might be true once in a great while depending on the situation and the guy you’re talking to BUT…
When it comes to a woman – What are you REALLY AFRAID OF?
That’s right – her NOT liking you. That’s all.
Which is no different than seeking her approval.
MISTAKE #3: Looking To Her For Approval Or Permission
“In our desire to please women (which we mistakenly think will make them like us), us guys are always doing things to get a woman’s “approval” or “permission”.
Another HORRIBLE idea.
Women are NEVER attracted to the types of men who kiss up to them… EVER.
Don’t get me wrong here.
You don’t have to treat women BADLY for them to like you.
But if you think that treating a woman well means “always getting her approval and permission for things”, think again.
You will never succeed by looking for approval. Women actually get ANNOYED at men who seek their approval.”
Here’s the deal…
When you start interacting with women a certain, with the right amount of confidence (a few a other things) sometimes you will disagree with her – how you handle those moments can make the difference between getting to the next step OR not getting anywhere with you.
If you throw away every belief you have and de-value yourself thinking she’ll like you more for it – she will lose any attraction she had for you.
If she doesn’t like something you’re saying or doing she’s only giving you her personal opinion.
She’s NOT telling you to stop doing it or she won’t feel attracted to you. Most of the time it’s a test and if you fail it – her feelings will disappear.
Stand your ground when it’s necessary. Pass her tests.
Don’t let her push you over thinking it will make her like you because it won’t.
You can still be a nice guy but letting any woman, or person for that fact, affect the value you have in your beliefs just because you want to be nice or have them like you only lowers your self-confidence and erases the respect they may have for you.
You can NOT be overly self-conscious about yourself and still attract women. It just doesn’t work.
Yes, you’re going to piss some women off who don’t agree with you but unless you’re a complete ass with no moral fiber or morality you will NOT decrease your attractiveness to her.
Now whether she decides to further her interaction with you at that point will have EVERYTHING to do with her and NOT YOU.
There’s a clear attractive difference between being nice and being a pushover.
“There is a big difference between being a good guy and being too much of a nice guy. How your nice guy ways are not the reason why you’re failing. If you listen to all the bad dating advice out there, you’re apt to treat women badly, and that won’t lead to success in dating either. This is how it is.”
Learn it quickly because it can mean the difference between having a girlfriend, and having another friend who is a girl.
Before you take this whole thing too far… which you probably won’t because you’re a good guy but it must be said anyways.
This tip is NOT about becoming a jerk who feels their opinions are more valid than hers.
It’s not about acting like an asshole or treating women like their inferior to you or everyone else.
The real purpose behind this Nice Guy Tip is to make you understand the difference between “trying to get a girl to like you” by agreeing with her every idea or motion and creating attraction by letting a little friction happen between you and her AND…
Standing up for yourself.
Believing in yourself.
Valuing your opinions.
Knowing your true self-worth.
Because who follow those rule for him is a very ATTRACTIVE man to women.
“Your beliefs come in many forms. There’s the limited ones which slow down or impede your ability to be or become an attractive man and there’s the ones which can help you in attracting women.
Using the “better” beliefs to your advantage comes down to several things but the main ingredient to make them work for you is…
The guy who begs for her approval, agrees with her all the time thinking that’ll get him in her pants, putting her on a pedestal just because she’s beautiful or whatever… that’s just NOT attractive.
TOO many nice guys roll over because they’re afraid to upset a woman thinking she’ll lose the attraction and it’s the exact opposite of what really happens.
Women do NOT feel the right spark of chemistry or attraction with a guy who “acts” like he needs her approval and his every move shows it.
Women NEED to explore every emotion around a guy and they must feel like the guy they’re with not only can handle all her every emotional ups and down – but doesn’t break down and give in, just because he needs her approval.
“If you assume that a woman is upset and that means it equates to, not liking you, you’re making a very big mistake.
It’s a two dimensional way of looking at emotions, and feelings from people. It show a very distinct need to improve your emotional intelligence and understanding that,
Disapproval is not the same thing as being disliked.
Disapproval is not the same thing as, not being unattractive.
And being upset does not equate to, not liking you.
And when you make that desperate scramble to get her to like you….
Well you’re really going off the deep end there because the reality is, and this has been demonstrated time and time again, you’ve probably seen this in movies, and you’ve know it’s true when you see it.
You see this woman that really just kind of does not get along with this guy. And later as you go through the movie there’s this sudden change where she suddenly in love with him.
Her anger and her hatred for this guy turns into complete love and devotion to him.”
Stand up for yourself.
STOP being a push-over.
STOP trying to kiss her ass.
STOP agreeing with her because you think she’ll like you more for it.
Believe in yourself.
Trust in your non-limiting beliefs.
Understand when a woman disagrees with you or doesn’t like something you’re doing, it does NOT mean she can not feel attracted to you. It does NOT equate to her not liking YOU.
If you erase just this ONE act from how you interact with women – you will see an immediate change on how women respond to you and for the most part…
It will be ATTRACTION.
Which is typically a good thing, right?
Of course it is.
Confronting a woman or facing a possible confrontation with a woman you like can be a tough thing to do. It can feel like it goes against every nice guy fiber you feel inside you…
BUT as long as you’re not seeking it out or causing trouble just to be an ass….
YOUR OPINION and YOUR BELIEFS must never be put aside. They DO MATTER.
If they matter to you, they will matter to her too.
Try it “nicely” and notice the change.
Thanks for stopping by today and I do hope you found the answer you were looking for AND that you’re going to follow this tip as best you can.
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All 20 Nice Guy Tips To Attract More Women
1. Being Nice Has Little to do with Attraction
2. She’s Flirting With You does NOT Mean She’s Your Next Girlfriend
3. First Move – Make Sure You Make It
4. Disqualify – Don’t Reject Yourself Before She Does
5. Pity Date – Never Ask For It and Display It
6. Buy Attraction – You can not Buy Her Affecation
7. Rejected – Stop Feeling Sorry For Yourself
8. Agree Beliefs – Have Your Own Beliefs
9. Learn Funny – Humor Done the Attractive Way
10. Tease – Never Stop Doing It
11. Learn Flirt – Flirting Is an Essential Skill
12. Like Me – Never Ask A Woman This
13. Women Want – What She Says – What She Wants
14. Friend Zone – You Just Might Be In It
15. Body Language – Important Sexual Tool
16. Live Life – Living Your Own Life
17. Blame – STOP Blaming Women and Others
18. Space – Give Her What She Needs
19. Confidence – The Most Attractive Trait
20. Invest – Keep Moving Forward