"Failing with women number seven - You Didn’t Know What She Really Wanted From You – Women Feel Like You Just Don’t Get It or Them."
The age-old question asked by many a man (probably) since language came about has and will always be,
Seems like a simple answer is long overdue but when you think about it, asking what do women want only sets up the guy asking it, to think and believe, just give her what she wants and she's yours...
Which most know is far from reality.
GIVING anyone something you think they want doesn't equate or lead to attraction, and this is especially true when it comes to women, dating them, and being in a relationship too.
This certainly seemed to be true in my earlier life...
They didn't seem to like guys with glasses, so I got contacts. They didn't seem to like short guys - so I only bothered with shorter women. They didn't seem to like guys who rode a bike to work - so I got a car. They certainly didn't like guys with long hair in the 90's anymore - so I chopped it off.
NONE of which worked and it actually did more damage to my delicate Ego because when you do all that and still get NOTHING for it - kind of makes you feel like a total loser. Tell me if I'm wrong there.
So what's a guy to do?
You don't know what they want AND when you think you're on to something, you're not allowed to just GIVE it to them and expect results.
The answer is much less complicated than you would ever believe and is written in my free online book: Chapter One - The Real Secret to Attracting Women & Getting Laid No One Knows But Me, so I suggest you read it as soon as possible IF you want some quick results.
Ultimately - the answer is:
Women WANT to FEEL... something!
If it's connected to you and equates or leads to a genuine attraction - then you're all set. No more "typical - can't get a woman to save my life problem" for you anymore.
But, as stated above, you can NOT just GIVE someone something and expect results, and you certainly can not, just give her a FEELING.
She must experience it based on HOW you interact with her and the skill of attractive communication.
This "something" unfortunately doesn't always have to be a good feeling. It can be anything from doubt to nervousness to obsession.
In many cases she will have to experience lots of feelings which will get her to feel attracted to you. Some will be good, some will be incredible, some will be bad, and others... will be much worse.
The simplest way to solve this problem is...
Do NOT give them what you think they want or even what they say they want.
GIVE them what they NEED... which is a FEELING above and beyond a non-sexual friendship.
Let me put it in a way lots of guys understand because it has to do with food that's so good but essentially bad for you too - sound familiar?
You WANT a tasty bacon cheeseburger but you NEED food to live.
Women WANT the perfect guy for them but, guy or not, they tend to NEED what a relationship has to offer all humans - love, intimacy, a higher probability to procreate, and an overall feeling of happiness, along with a connection to another soul.
Which essentially means you will find groups of women who disregard some or all of their needs and satisfy their wants instead BUT since it isn't healthy or lead to a happier longer-lasting relationship, setting yourself up to satisfy their "wants" isn't healthy or productive AND it's much harder, sometimes impossible to do...
So why bother going against the odds for a woman only leading to a worse failure? It just doesn't make sense.
I get it.
HOW is it done?
How, if this is one of perhaps several reasons you're failing with women, can this problem be fixed?
HOW do you make a woman FEEL something so it leads to attraction?
First up as always...
CONFIDENCE and a strong belief in yourself.
It's always first for a good reason - women are most likely to feel attracted to a guy with confidence... period!
COMMUNICATION and communicating your self-confidence in a way that's attractive.
Communication includes all things from your body language to your conversational skills and all the stuff between.
It's actually that simple.
Much more complicated to put into practice BUT it's certainly not out of the reach or ability of any guy who is WILLING to learn, which includes you.
And NO - I'm not oversimplifying, it really IS that easy.
Women of healthy self-esteem and confidence will NATURALLY feel the most attraction for a man of the same level or higher.
Women can be easily led and made to feel attraction from a guy who knows how communicate himself through his actions, words, and conversational style.
FORGET about giving them what they want or say they want - it can work but it's much more difficult and far less productive.
Focus on the core areas which are confidence and communication and you WILL give them what they need and those needs are more directly related to her feelings.
There are lots of great posts and pages here at DiaLteG TM to help you in both areas:
- Stop Giving Women What They Say They Want, Make Them Feel
- She Doesn’t Care What You Have To Offer Her – This Is What Women Want
- What Women Want In A Man
- What Women Want From Guys Who Approach 4 Question Quiz On How
Confidence, Self-esteem, and a Strong Belief in Yourself:
- Why Confidence Is So Attractive to Women, What It Is, & How To Get It Quickly
- Don’t Agree With Her & Go Against Your Beliefs Hoping She’ll Like You
- Long Time Since Having A Girlfriend? How To Use Being Single To Attract Women
- Put Your Limiting Beliefs Aside – How to Become Her Superman
- Too Ugly? Too Short? Here’s How To Turn Your Flaws Into Strengths
- The 4 Sure Signs Of Confidence That Women Look For In A Man
Attractive Communication and Conversational skills:
- How & Why Your Body Language Communicates Attraction To Women – Learn To Control It
- Do You Want To Get Inside The Mind Of An Attractive Woman? Her Secret Interview!
- Why & How Being Funny Creates Attraction If You Use it The Right Way
- Learn How To Flirt With Every Women You Meet – Skill Of Attraction
- How To Create Attraction In 4 Minutes By Watching Ghostbusters
- 7 Reasons Why Women Like A Quiet and Mysterious Man Plus How To Be Him
- Cocky Comedy – The Difference Being Confident & Acting Like a Jerk
- Bobby Rio Interview – Conversation Escalation: Make Small Talk Sexy
- Conversation Topics That Keep Her Attention, Charm Her and Attract Her
- How to Avoid Awkward Silences with Women – Conversation Techniques
- How to Have Better Conversations with Women
- The Six Deadliest Conversation Mistakes You Make With Women
Attraction is a FEELING.
How you get a woman to feel it towards you is not entirely about knowing what they want and trying to give it to them.
If you've been trying it and it's not working, there's your proof.
It's better to give her what she needs and a big part of what she needs is to FEEL lots of different emotions which can and does lead to an attraction which is then connected to you.
Getting to her run through her range of mostly good emotions is simply communicating to her your self-confidence and communicating to her in a way which stimulates her and that is generally achieved through your belief in yourself and your ability (or skills) related to conversations.
Many of those posts and pages listed above should be studied so you can develop both pieces - they work best when used together.
It may appear complicated but it's not and it's completely within your skill as a man - even if you've struggled or failed in the past.
Follow the notes - do the work - and this "problem" of not knowing what women really want as a reason for your failures WILL DISAPPEAR.
IF you don't like rummaging through bit and pieces of information and you have fifteen bucks you can part with...
It's an absolutely amazing, intuitive, well-written series which fixed me, so I know it will work for you too.
Here's a great quote from the opening of the book:
"Don’t Assume A Woman’s Wants And Needs Are The Same As Your Own.
Remember that there is an inherent biological difference in the way male and female brains are wired.
Instead of letting it confuse you (which happens to 99.9% of all men), learn to use it to your advantage so they will become interested in YOU.
Women Are FAR More Interested In The Way You Make Them FEEL Rather Than Looks, Money, Or Fame.
If you think about it, we guys have it pretty good.
In most cases when a man is not physically attracted to a woman, there is very little she can do to turn his feelings around.
Luckily for us, women aren’t programmed the same way.
It’s very possible for a man who ISN’T tall, good looking, or rich to make a woman feel the same powerful feelings we do when we see a drop-dead gorgeous woman."
The first part is about thinking about your success with women.
The second part teaches you how to communicate with women.
The REST, will pick it up and see for yourself because EVERYTHING is covered. You won't miss a thing.
Related articles about failing with women:
- Ten Reasons Why Men Fail With Women
- The Ten Reasons Why HIGHLY INTELLIGENT Men Fail With Women
- What Women HATE Most About Single Guys
- Are You Like This Guy? If So You’ll NEVER Get A Woman
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