Are you one of those guys who needs a woman to give you signs or signals to let you know IF she likes you or not? Are you banging your head against the wall trying to figure out if yet “another” girl has put you in the “friends zone“?
Today is (sort of) your lucky day because I’m going to reveal to you the many signs which will show you clearly if she likes as more than just a friend.
I used to the words “sort of” because I know it’s NOT your lucky day if you’re made to realize that she’s just isn’t attracted to you at all. I feel for you, I really do. Been there a hundred times myself.
Let’s get started, But first…
Understand that YOU are in complete control of this “friends zone” shitty deal.
If you only acted like a friend in the beginning then chances are you ARE just a friend. Sure, different circumstances might apply, she could secretly like you or want you as a boyfriend, but it’s rare and almost not worth discussing on this post at least.
This is not included in the list below because it’s not really a sign (so to speak) but it IS a clear indication that you are in fact… just her friend and nothing more.
1st Sign: She revealed way too much information about herself from the moment you met.
When a woman likes a guy, the last thing she wants made known to you are what she believes are her shortcomings.
Most women will not let her faults out so quickly and they certainly will withhold any and all information which you could use to disqualify her and not feel attracted to her.
Think back to when you first met and ask yourself what she told you about herself that you probably overlooked because you were so into her it blinded you from the reality of the situation.
The more she “likes” you the more she wants to exercise control of how you see her.
She WANTS you to see her as someone special, different, attractive, sexy, perfect as she can be, and all her attempts to act shy or avoid being nervous are great signs she is attracted to you.
If she is feeling something deeper she will also become worried you’re going to put HER in your friends zone and will act accordingly the best she can.
If she’s giving away ALL her secrets early on or is NOT overly worried or doesn’t even act a little (cutely) nervous around you, it’s a definite sign you’re in her friends zone or she’s feeling no attraction towards you.
So yeah – the bad news is:
If she’s giving it all away – you’re not connecting with her, she’s not emotionally opening up to you because she’s into you, she’s doing it because she feels way too comfortable with you.
Women thrive on sexual chemistry and become attracted to you when there’s a little friction going on AND if that is not happening – if she’s not feeling butterflies in her stomach – she’s not there… yet and/or may never get there.
2nd Sign: She only calls you when she wants advice, help, or wants to talk about how SHE is feeling.
Friendships are not always two-way streets. Some women will use a friendship with you (especially if she knows you’re into her) to get everything off her chest.
You will become her “go-to guy” when she’s having problems because she knows you’ll listen with a kind heart.
Which is expected when you’re actually in a sexual relationship with her but when it comes to just being friends – you’ll find it happens all too often and if you pay close attention – she’s NEVER there for YOU.
Yes, some nicer women won’t use you that way. They’ll listen to you. They’ll let you do the same and allow you to vent or discuss your problems with her.
BUT that’s NOT a sign of her liking you. It’s because she’s a nice woman.
If you’re getting all the bad parts and none of the good parts (like intimacy or sex) and she only ever seems to call you when again, “there’s a problem”, then take it as a clear sign she’s NOT feeling attracted to you AND you’re in her friends zone.
3rd sign: She’s always complaining about her past-present relationships and the men she’s currently dating or has dated in the past.
You’ll find her complaining about being single or about the relationship she’s in. How “they’re no good guys out there for her”. How they’re ALL jerks.
You might even hear how she’s lucky to have met you because you’re NOT like those other guys.
The sad news here is…
Do you want to know why you’re not like those “other” guys?
It’s because she’s not feeling attracted to you.
You’re going to meet a few women who bring up past relationships early on and while on the first few dates and it’s probably not the smartest thing for her to do BUT that’s different – IF you’re ON a date then you can assume some interest and attraction most of the time.
However the constant calls, texts, or messages complaining about “other” guys and relationship stuff is definitely a clear sign she only sees you as a friend.
This sign leads naturally to the next one…
4th Sign: She confides to you way too many very personal details about herself.
This is slightly different than the first sign because this happens after you’ve gotten to know each other better.
She will reveal personal things about herself she would NEVER dare tell a guy she likes in that way, unless they’ve been going out for a very long time.
She’ll talk about her periods, her bathroom habits, her vaginal area, and more… almost so non-nonchalantly it goes right under your radar.
You might think you’ve made a great connection and you have, BUT it’s not a sexual one because she would never tell those things to a guy she really likes.
Hell it could take an average woman years before she will even fart in front of a guy she likes. (I suppose then if she’s let a few loose around and asks you to smell them, yeah… you’re just a friend.)
She doesn’t feel like you’re going to judge her or like her less for talking so openly with you because she’s not at all worried or even cares that you might be attracted to her because she’s isn’t attracted to you.
You’re just her “guy” friend.
5th sign: She doesn’t seem to care what she looks like when she’s with you or when she’s going somewhere with you.
Women like to look good when they go out and they’re certainly open to heading out in sweatpants with their hair in a pony tail so it’s easier to understand how you could miss this signal.
BUT… if you’re open to seeing what’s really happening, you’ll notice quickly that she just doesn’t seem to care what she looks like when she’s with you.
(Unless she thinks you’re her gay friend that she might mention how you two should always match but that’s something entirely different.)
The only time she spends the extra effort to do herself up when she goes places with you is when there will be lots of other women or guys she might be interested in dating.
Sure, there’s that comfort thing again. Maybe you believe she just feels so comfortable with you, those little don’t matter – but they DO MATTER to her.
The comfort thing is friendship based and is not a “comfortable enough to fuck you” thing.
Many guys make a mistake here because they think she WAS getting dressed up to meet up with you in the beginning so they think it’s a sign, BUT that was long ago and if it stops (with no intimacy or sexual relationship) then it’s because they were quickly put in the “no dating” friendship part of her social world.
With that said let’s move on to the next sign… comfort.
6th Sign: She’s way too comfortable around you.
Women are notoriously nervous around guys they really like no matter how much they try to hide it or actually can hide it.
When she likes a guy she’s all too selective about what she says which can make her appear very quiet.
She may also stumble her words out. She’ll apologize a lot when she thinks she’s made a mistake.
Anything and everything she does is centered around her self-conscious thoughts trying to assure she isn’t fucking anything up with you.
When she’s way too comfortable early on or even later – it’s because she’s not worried at all of you liking her.
She either already knows it and is not interested in you – or she just doesn’t care if you find her attractive at all.
Sexual tension is big here.
If she’s feeling it for you, YOU WILL SEE It.
She may get embarrassed easier, her face will get flushed at times, her body language will be a bit squeamish or unsettling or uneasy, she may get a little clumsy, excuse herself a lot, eat less (or more sometimes)…
When you’re with a woman who is feeling sexual tension and attracted to a guy – it’s practically unavoidable to notice.
AND unfortunately – IF you’re not seeing ANY of it – it’s not normally because she’s so good at hiding it (because believe me most suck at hiding it) then it’s because she is NOT feeling it.
Read the quote below and if you’re not noticing any of that happening – she’s way too comfortable around you.
“Have you ever watched a woman when she gets flustered and teased?
Have you seen how she behaves?
I’ll be honest, it’s almost embarrassingly primitive and childish.
First, the women gets excited. It even looks amazingly like anger, but it’s not. It’s a delicious cocktail of thrilling and emotional energy.
Then, the woman gets TURNED ON.”
Now that we’re on the sexual parts of her, it makes perfect sense to move on to the…
7th Sign: She flirts with you a little differently than other guys.
I’ve heard many of men tell me how “this girl” treats him differently than other guys and they’re not entirely sure, but they believe it’s because she like him.
Most of the time – they’re just plain wrong!
Friendly “I’m not sexually interested in you” flirting is totally different than “Oh it’s on!” let’s share a bed soon flirting.
It’s easy to see how confusing it can be. It’s easy to believe one over the other is happening. When you’re feeling it for you that’s how you interpret it because well, you like her.
But it doesn’t change the fact of reality.
This always reminds me of a quote from the show “Raising Hope” when the weird friend says to Jimmy,
“Oh that’s brilliant – you want to do the opposite of the guy she’s sleeping with is doing.”
Of course I’m paraphrasing a little. It’s the Bro-Gurt episode , you can pick it up or watch it on Amazon if you like. It’s a great show AND eventually Jimmy turns that friendship into sex and marriage… of course. It’s Hollywood. The episode where he turns his friend (finally) into a girlfriend is “Jimmy’s Fake Girlfriend” – which is in season 2.
My point is
Play fighting, name calling, or busting your ass can be a major sign she is attracted to you BUT it’s NEVER a guarantee.
The ONLY way to tell if something more is going on is of course number one, she IS flirting with you the same way she flirts with guys she would or might want to sleep with and two…
It’s actually escalating beyond friendly banter and is becoming more sexual.
That’s the ONLY way to truly tell if she likes you or not – with regards to flirting. If it’s turning up the heat and getting more sexual then it’s a good sign she likes you and wants more.
But if it never seems to go anywhere and you’re being treated like an older brother, you know – minus the sexual overtones or innuendo then take it as a clear sign you’re just a friend and nothing more.
If you’re not sure the what the difference between friend-flirting and sexual ones, read this article by Scot McKay I’ve posted here at DiaLteG TM:
AND if you want a little help in that area – I cover it in my online book on pages 2 and 17 and some great advice from Carlos Xuma in the last post:
- Because She’s Flirting With You does NOT Mean She’s Your Next Girlfriend
- Learn How To Flirt With Every Women You Meet – Skill Of Attraction
- 4 Step Formula On Flirting With Women & The Rules You Must Follow
8th Sign: She never gets back to you in a reasonable amount of time.
By the way, this one was first given to me by Carlos Xuma so I’m giving credit where credit is due.
“You get a late reply. Again and again. You send her a message on the phone, Facebook, or Twitter and she doesn’t reply. You wait for hours, resend your messages and still no reply.
And when she finally does, you get a short one-word responses like “yep”, “okay”, “fine”. That’s a sure sign – you’re friend-zoned!
C’mon, if she was hot for you, she’d be excited to hear from you. She’d use any excuse to communicate with you. She’d jump on it and reply QUICK because she’s excited and anticipating hearing from you.
If she doesn’t act that way, then that means that she’s not thinking of you and doesn’t feel that rush when you contact her. And that’s never a good thing.”
Written by Carlos Xuma.
Ouch… but oh way too freaking true!
I get hundreds of woman daily asking me why a certain guy is not getting back to their messages quick enough or that his texting habits are slowing down.
This is because when a woman really likes you – all things aside – she will get back to you very quickly and her response will be anything less than one word.
And then you’d expect she’d just keep texting or calling until you actually answer her.
Good one Carlos and thank you.
On the side – IF you are definitely now beginning to realize you’re in her friend’s zone – sorry – Told you I’ve lived there for more than half of my life so I know what your going through… every last detail.
Below you’ll find some ways to turn things around for you and they can work BUT one really cool way – with support from my more than affiliated friend Carlos Xuma who gave you sign number 8 is to:
Remove yourself from her life as best you can.
Change some dynamics features about yourself by adding some proven bad boy traits to yourself – minus the jerk attitude and game playing.
You can read the awesome intro in the free download, no sign ups:
Re-introduce yourself to her.
Trust me it’s better to be doing SOMETHING different than to sit around wondering if your friend likes you in that way or not.
9th Sign: She Introduces you as her “friend”.
Another sign Carlos gave me to help you figure this “friends zone signs” stuff out AND to promote his inexpensive but powerful LUST RESPONSE video and report is written below:
“This is pretty much the clearest signal that she’s not attracted to you.
You see, a woman tells her girlfriends about the guy she likes whenever she talks to them.
And when she introduces that guy to them she’ll never say “he’s my friend” – because she wants that guy to like her back! NOT think of each other as just “friends.”
If she likes you, you’ll see her friends giving you that look and will even tease you both about being together.
That’s just how straightforward everything is.
So, if you hear the words “Meet my friend Joe”. Then, you’re just that to her…a friend.”
10th Sign: YOU missed a critical step in the attraction phase.
Okay, it’s not really a sign to look for from her BUT it’s still a clear indicator that she only sees you as friend.
Think back as best as you can…
Did you miss something?
Did you not make a move when it felt you should have did something?
Was there a moment you felt like she wanted you to do something but you for whatever reason – didn’t do it?
You see – lot’s of women can feel like you don’t like them in the beginning and if things don’t progress sexually, they will quickly or eventually just assume you’re not looking for something more and will only see you as a friend.
Once you’re there – it’s almost impossible to get out because:
“FRIENDSHIPS AND ROMANCE
For women, friendships and romantic relationships are two separate things. They are NOT the same. One can lead to another, but it’s RARE when it happens.
Remember that. One CAN lead to another, but it’s RARE.
“Romantic” relationships are very different from “friend” relationships.
While most men would sleep with most of their female “friends” if the woman “came on” to them, most women would NOT sleep with most men that they consider just friends.”
Aside from the quote above I’ve known lots of women who at some point made the decision that you’ll only ever be a friend because they felt rejected in the beginning.
Once you’re a friend, they rarely if ever will give that up for something more.
They’ll go through all the signs listed above and you’ll sink deeper and deeper into being just her friend.
There was a time you might’ve had your chance.
If you at any point felt you SHOULD have done something and didn’t, that was probably it and a VERY CLEAR SIGN you’re only in her friend’s zone.
This concludes all the signs you’re in the friends zone or whether a girl likes you by how she acts when she’s around you.
If I can think of more I’ll let you know and add it to the page. If you have anything you’d like to add yourself, a personal experience, anything to help a fellow guy avoid this whole friends zone thing – make sure you leave a comment below.
I do hope you have found what you were searching for today and that many of the signs here are not happening to you and that she really does like you.
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However – all things and signs aside – the best and EASIEST way around the friends zone may seem tougher but is actually not. Based on my expert knowledge on this topic – it’s always best just to avoid getting stuck there in the first place.
This can be done simply by making sure when you first interact with any woman you would like to date these things are in place.
How To Avoid The Friends Zone and Guarantee She Will Always See you As A Dating Option FIRST:
Focus on creating ATTRACTION.
Make sure it happens because if you don’t, she will never see you as more than a friend anyways.
If you’re not sure how attraction happens, what triggers it, and how it’s created, read these three books and you’ll know more than you’ll ever need:
That’s my free online book which I enjoyed writing a lot so do me a huge favor – read it already and let me know what you think plus what you learned from it.
You’ll learn exactly what must happen so you can avoid ever being thrown in the friends zone again.
Establish rapport with her by indirectly showing her you ARE interested in something more than a friendship AND if you’re going to be friends with her – it will be YOUR CHOICE.
Don’t leave it for her to decide.
Lead through the steps of dating and/or seduction.
Get a date early to show her you’re more interested in getting to know her as a potential “something” rather than just another friend.
(In other words never befriend first hoping something more will happen because it won’t!)
Here’s some great material to get you started from my Get A Hot Girlfriend Book:
- STEP 6: Become Sexy Guy Where Your Sexiness Comes From
- STEP 10: Why You Might Have To “Go Get Laid” to Get A Girlfriend
STOP looking for signs and signals from a woman.
READ THIS if that’s what you find yourself doing all too much:
Stop looking around for signals from women that they’re “interested” in you. Stop CARING whether or not a particular woman is interested in you.
Instead, start TRIGGERING the interest, and watching to see if women ENGAGE. If they do, then assume that IT’S ON!
Lastly but equally as important:
When it comes time to kiss her, hold her hand, hug her… anything intimate… RISK REJECTION and go for it!
Do not hesitate.
This way she will always know whats up with you AND… taking a real risk will ALWAYS make you appear more attractive even IF she didn’t feel anything for you at that point in time.
Even if you’re rejected – once you go for that kiss or whatever – you’ll find it much easier to change her mind later HOWEVER… once you’re in her friends zone – makes it borderline or practically impossible to escape. It CAN be done but it’s a lot more work.
Here is some more help on that subject: