Are you one of those guys who needs a woman to give you signs or signals to let you know if she likes you or not? Are you banging your head against the wall trying to figure out if yet "another" girl has put you in the "friends zone"?
Today is your lucky day because I'm going to reveal to you all the signs if you are in the friends zone and if she likes as more than just a friend.
Then I'm going to reveal the secret of getting out if you're willing to take the risk. Real attractive men take risks. Don't forget that.
Before we begin, here's the good news and the bad news too.
Despite how you are feeling, you are and will always be in complete control of being in, getting stuck in, getting out, and/or never allowing yourself to be put in the FRIENDS ZONE by any woman you want.
That's the good news.
If you acted (for whatever your reasons were) or pretended to be her friend from moment you met, then it's practically guaranteed she only sees you a friend and she might not ever see you in any other way.
That's the bad news.
Different circumstances might apply but they usually don't no matter how you think you see it.
She could secretly like you or want you as a boyfriend, but it's extremely rare.
If you believe that is your case, then read this right now:
1st Sign: She revealed way too much information about herself from the moment you met.
When a woman really likes a guy, one of the the last thing she wants made known to you are what she believes are her shortcomings.
Most women will not let her faults out so quickly. They will withhold any and all information which you could use to disqualify her and not feel attracted to her.
Think back to when you first met her and ask yourself what she told you about herself that you probably overlooked because you were so into her it blinded you from the reality of the situation.
The more she “likes” you the more she wants to exercise control of how you see her.
She WANTS you to see her as someone special, different, attractive, sexy, perfect as she can be, and all her attempts to act shy or avoid being nervous are great signs she is attracted to you.
If she is feeling something deeper she will also become worried you’re going to put HER in your friends zone and will act accordingly the best she can.
If she’s giving away ALL her secrets early on or is NOT overly worried or doesn't even act a little (cutely) nervous around you, it’s a definite sign you’re in her friends zone or she's feeling no attraction towards you.
The bad news is:
If she's giving it all away, you're not connecting with her.
She's not emotionally opening up to you because she's into you. She's doing it because she feels way too comfortable with you.
Women thrive on sexual chemistry. Without that, without a little friction, without the feelings of butterflies and uneasiness when she's around - she's not there yet or may never get there.
2nd Sign: She only calls you when she wants advice, help, or wants to talk about how she is feeling.
Friendships are not always two-way streets. Some women will use a friendship with you (especially if she knows you're into her) to get everything off her chest.
You will become her "go-to guy" when she's having problems because she knows you'll listen with a kind heart.
This is expected when you're actually in a sexual relationship with her, but when it comes to just being friends, you'll find it happens all too often and if you pay close attention...
She's just seems to NEVER there for YOU.
Sure, some nicer women won't use you that way. They'll listen to you. They'll let you do the same and allow you to vent or discuss your problems with her.
BUT that's NOT a sign of her liking you.
It's because she's a nice woman.
If you're getting all the bad parts and none of the good parts (like intimacy or sex) and she only ever seems to call you when again, "there's a problem", then take it as a clear sign she's NOT feeling attracted to you and you're definitely in her friends zone.
3rd sign: She's always complaining about her past-present relationships and the men she's currently dating, or has dated in the past.
You'll find her constantly complaining about being single or about the relationship she's currently in and out of like clockwork She'll find a way to work it into ever conversation. i
She'll tell you how "they're no good guys out there for her".
How they're ALL jerks.
You might even hear how she's lucky to have met you because you're NOT like those other guys.
The sad news here is...
Do you want to know why you're not like those "other" guys?
It's because she's not feeling attracted to you.
You're going to meet a few women who bring up past relationships early on while on the first few dates and it's probably not the smartest thing for her to do BUT that's different - IF you're ON a date then you can assume some interest and attraction most of the time.
However the constant calls, texts, or messages complaining about "other" guys and relationship stuff is definitely a clear sign she only sees you as a friend.
This sign leads naturally to the next one...
4th Sign: She confides to you way too many very personal details about herself.
This is slightly different than the first sign because this happens after you've gotten to know each other better.
She will reveal personal things about herself she would NEVER dare tell a guy she likes in that way, unless they've been going out for a very long time.
She'll talk about her periods, her bathroom habits, her vaginal area, and more... almost so non-nonchalantly it goes right under your radar.
You might think you've made a great connection and you have, BUT it's not a sexual one because she would never tell those things to a guy she really likes.
Hell it could take an average woman years before she will even fart in front of a guy she likes. (I suppose then if she's let a few loose around and asks you to smell them, yeah... you're just a friend.)
She doesn't feel like you're going to judge her or like her less for talking so openly with you because she's not at all worried or even cares that you might be attracted to her because she's isn't attracted to you.
You're just her "guy" friend.
5th sign: She doesn't seem to care what she looks like when she's with you or when she's going somewhere with you.
Women like to look good when they go out and they're certainly open to heading out in sweatpants with their hair in a pony tail so it's easier to understand how you could miss this signal.
If you allow yourself to see what's really happening, you'll notice quickly that she just doesn't seem to care what she looks like when she's with you.
The only time she spends the extra effort to do herself up is or make herself look pretty, is when she goes places with you will there will be lots of other women or guys she might be interested in dating.
You could argue she's feeling comfortable around you. Maybe you believe she just feels so at ease with you, those little don't matter...
But trust me, they DO MATTER to her. They matter a lot to ALL women.
The comfort thing is friendship based and is not a "comfortable enough to fuck you" thing.
Don't make the mistake here thinking when you first met and she was looking good it was because of you or it was a sign.
If it has stopped happening (with no intimacy or sexual relationship) then it's because you were quickly put in the "no dating" friendship part of her social world.
With that said let's move on to the next sign... Comfort.
6th Sign: She's WAY too comfortable around you.
Women are notoriously nervous around guys they really like no matter how much they try to hide it or actually can hide it.
When she likes a guy she's all too selective about what she says which can make her appear very quiet.
She may also stumble her words out. She'll apologize a lot when she thinks she's made a mistake.
Anything and everything she does is centered around her self-conscious thoughts trying to assure she isn't fucking anything up with you.
When she's way too comfortable early on or even later - it's because she's not worried at all of you liking her.
She either already knows it and is not interested in you - or she just doesn't care if you find her attractive at all.
Sexual tension is big here.
If she's feeling it for you, YOU WILL SEE It.
She may get embarrassed easier, her face will get flushed at times, her body language will be a bit squeamish or unsettling or uneasy, she may get a little clumsy, excuse herself a lot, eat less (or more sometimes)...
When you're with a woman who is feeling sexual tension and attracted to a guy - it's practically unavoidable to notice.
AND unfortunately, IF you're not seeing ANY of it, it's not because she's so good at hiding it (because believe me most suck at hiding it) then it's because she is NOT feeling it for you.
Read the quote below and if you're NOT noticing any of that happening - she's way too comfortable around you.
"Have you ever watched a woman when she gets flustered and teased?
Have you seen how she behaves?
I’ll be honest, it’s almost embarrassingly primitive and childish.
First, the women gets excited. It even looks amazingly like anger, but it’s not. It’s a delicious cocktail of thrilling and emotional energy.
Then, the woman gets TURNED ON."
Now that we're on the sexual parts of her, it makes perfect sense to move on to the...
7th Sign: She flirts with you a little differently than other guys.
I've heard so many guys tell me how "this girl" treats him differently than other guys. They're not entirely sure but they believe it's because she likes him.
Most of the time, they're unfortunately wrong!
Friendly "I'm not sexually interested in you" flirting is totally different than "Oh it's on!" let's share a bed soon flirting.
It's easy to see how confusing it can be because when you're feeling it so much for her, you will interpret it the wrong way and make more out of it then is actually there.
But it doesn't change the reality of your situation. She's treating differently than those "other" guys because she's not really flirting with you, she's not FEELING attracted to you.
This always reminds me of a quote from the show "Raising Hope" when a weird friend says to Jimmy,
"Oh that's brilliant - you want to do the opposite of the guy she's sleeping with is doing."
Of course I'm paraphrasing a little to make a point.
It's a great show AND eventually Jimmy turns that friendship into sex and marriage... of course. It's Hollywood. The episode where he turns his friend (finally) into a girlfriend is "Jimmy's Fake Girlfriend" - which is in season 2.
My point is
Play fighting, name calling, or busting your ass can be a major sign she is attracted to you BUT it's NEVER a guarantee.
The ONLY way to tell if something more is going on is of course number one, she IS flirting with you the same way she flirts with guys she would or might want to sleep with and two...
It's actually escalating beyond friendly banter and is becoming more sexual.
That's the ONLY way to truly tell if she likes you or not, with regards to flirting, is that it's getting more sexual. That's a great sign things are moving in that direction.
But if it never seems to go anywhere and you're being treated like an older brother, you know - minus the sexual overtones or innuendos, then take it as a clear sign you're just a friend and nothing more.
If you're not sure the what the difference between friend-flirting and sexual ones, read these articles I've posted up here at DiaLteG™
If you want it all and get this friends zone stuff handled completely, your paid membership includes it all:
8th Sign: She never gets back to you in a reasonable amount of time.
This one was given to me by Carlos Xuma and it's a good one.
"You get a late reply. Again and again. You send her a message on the phone, Facebook, or Twitter and she doesn't reply. You wait for hours, resend your messages and still no reply.
And when she finally does, you get a short one-word responses like "yep", "okay", "fine". That's a sure sign - you're friend-zoned!
C'mon, if she was hot for you, she'd be excited to hear from you. She'd use any excuse to communicate with you. She'd jump on it and reply QUICK because she's excited and anticipating hearing from you.
If she doesn't act that way, then that means that she's not thinking of you and doesn't feel that rush when you contact her. And that's never a good thing."
I get lots of woman asking me daily at why do guys why some dude is not responding back to her messages or answering her texts as quickly as she'd like. They feel ignored and confused.
This is because when a woman really likes you, she will get back to you very quickly and her response will be anything less than one word.
You can also expect her to just keep texting until you so answer her.
If you're not hearing from her, she has lots of excuses for delaying the next message, if she's not responding in a normal way...
It's because you're just a friend and believes a friend will wait, a possible lover or sexual partner won't be made to sit around wondering when she'll get back to him.
When you have any texting or messaging problems, go see Bobby Rio right here, right now:
9th Sign: She Introduces you as her "friend".
Another sign Carlos gave me to help you figure this "friends zone signs" stuff is written below:
"This is pretty much the clearest signal that she's not attracted to you.
You see, a woman tells her girlfriends about the guy she likes whenever she talks to them.
And when she introduces that guy to them she'll never say "he's my friend" - because she wants that guy to like her back! NOT think of each other as just "friends."
If she likes you, you'll see her friends giving you that look and will even tease you both about being together.
That's just how straightforward everything is.
So, if you hear the words "Meet my friend Joe". Then, you're just that to her...a friend."
10th Sign: You missed a critical step in the attraction phase or mating process.
Okay, it's not really a sign to look for from her but it's still a clear indicator that she only sees you as friend.
Think back as far as you can...
Did you miss something?
Did you wuss out and miss your chance to make a move on her?
Was there a moment you felt like she wanted you to do something but you for whatever reason, you didn't do it?
Lot's of women can feel like you don't like them in the beginning and if things don't progress sexually, they will quickly or eventually just assume you're not looking for something more and will only see ever you as a friend.
AND once you put there, especially for this reason because she felt rejected, it's almost impossible to get out:
"FRIENDSHIPS AND ROMANCE
For women, friendships and romantic relationships are two separate things. They are NOT the same. One can lead to another, but it’s RARE when it happens.
Remember that. One CAN lead to another, but it’s RARE.
“Romantic” relationships are very different from “friend” relationships.
While most men would sleep with most of their female “friends” if the woman “came on” to them, most women would NOT sleep with most men that they consider just friends."
Aside from the quote above, I've known lots of women who at some point made the decision that you'll only ever be a friend because they felt rejected in the beginning.
Once you're a friend, they rarely, if ever, will give that up for something more.
There was a time you might've had your chance but not anymore.
If you at any point felt you SHOULD have done something and didn't, that was probably it and a VERY CLEAR SIGN you're only in her friend's zone.
That covers ALL THE SIGNS a woman gives you that proves, without a doubt, she only sees you as just a friend.
You don't need all ten of them, all it takes are a few and an objective view for yourself. Your gut will let you know one way or another if you're there.
You just have to trust it and believe it. Too many men often refuse to admit it and get STUCK on one woman they'll never get for way too long.
And I do NOT want that to happen to you!
Today's post might feel like a kick in the ass or heart or whatever... but it's not.
Take it from a guy who not only found a way out of a more than ten years of many different woman friend zones, but eventually managed to fix it all.
The real solution to this friends zone question is to make sure...
You never put yourself in any woman's friend's zone again!
This can be done simply by making sure when you first interact with any woman you're interested in dating, certain things are in place and ready to work for you.
Getting out of one is a tougher road and not recommended for most men but if you must...
The steps to getting out of the friends zone, avoiding it, and a guarantee women will see you as her sexual dating option:
Your focus must be on creating attraction and learning the necessary skills to make it happen. Any man can learn them and that means you.
If you don't know how it's done, how it works, and what the human mating process is, you're going to be lost and left guessing - leading to even more friends zones.
Read the book that I personally learned as noted in my new series about online dating.
This is essential and will teach you the skills and techniques to create attraction:
They were written and produced by the master himself, David DeAngelo.
Click the link below and pick it up:
I have a write up on it to show you what's in it at DiaLteG™ - Double Your Dating.
Establish rapport with her by indirectly showing her you are interested in something more than a friendship and if you're going to be friends with her, it will be YOUR CHOICE to proceed forward on YOUR terms.
Don't leave it for her to decide.
Lead her through all the steps of dating and/or seduction.
Get a date early to show her you're more interested in getting to know her as a potential "something" rather than just another friend.
In other words never befriend her first hoping something more will happen because it won't!
At this point, unless you're really that confused...
STOP looking for signs and signals.
Follow the advice below instead:
Stop looking around for signals from women that they’re “interested” in you. Stop CARING whether or not a particular woman is interested in you.
Instead, start TRIGGERING the interest, and watching to see if women ENGAGE. If they do, then assume that IT’S ON!
Lastly but equally as important:
When it comes time to kiss her, hold her hand, hug her... anything intimate...
RISK REJECTION and go for it!
Do not hesitate.
This way she will always know what's up with you and because taking a real risk will ALWAYS make you appear more attractive, even IF she didn't feel anything for you early on.
Even if you're rejected - once you go for that kiss or whatever - you'll find it much easier to change her mind later.
However, once you're put in her friends zone, it's practically impossible to escape. It CAN be done but it's a lot more work and not worth it.
Here is some more help on that subject:
Getting Out Of The Dreaded Friends Zone!
I've written extensively on this subject. There's a folder on my desktop going back to the beginning in 2009 filled with steps on getting out which I used to send to my readers.
Let's just say I've dug deeper than anyone could ever imagine. I even made a survey on the subject:
My conclusion from all the research, testing, and experience being in the friends zone gave me a 3 step process for getting out. Unfortunately we're dealing with a woman's feelings I won't guarantee it will work for everyone.
The preface is here:
A quick sort-of simple write you might want to go through: How You Too Can Escape & Get Out The Her Friends Zone – How I Did It!
The 3 steps are simple and were given in the 11th email:
Stick within the framework that worked for me. Each step contains stages or areas in which you can follow at your own pace and discretion.
It's not recommended you vary from these steps if you wish to turn a friend of yours into your girlfriend.
However to avoid the friends zone with as many women as possible feel free to skip around. Just be sure to focus on your weak areas more then strengthening your strong points.
First Step is DISTRACTION:
Distract yourself to avoid seeing, calling, texting, etc... her as much.
Distract your focus from women and put the focus on yourself.
The bullet point may contain a link for you to follow with more information. Some may be for paid members. There's nothing I can or will do about that.
This will include:
- Giving yourself a new refined look slowly so others barely notice it's happening. Refine Your Look, Style – How To Take Care Of The Details Women Notice and How To Make A Great Impression On Her – 12 Things Women Look For In A Guy
- Understanding and figuring out how you put yourself in the friends zone. Chances are, you're one of those "nice guys" so change your definition: Start By Changing How You Define Being Nice and Nice Guys Can Finish First When It comes To Attracting Women
- Finding fun new things to do that you enjoy, in which women will enjoy doing with you. 32 Great Date Places Where To Go and Meet Her Plus 7 Tips On Dating
- Creating a natural indifference. Learn the real definition and how it really works. How To Be Indifferent & How Indifference Attracts Women When Done Right
- Allowing women to believe you are the right choice for her. Don't interrupt the process. The Real Secret to Attracting Women & Getting Laid No One Knows But Me
- Eliminating or changing your limited belief structure. It's faltered and needs to be changed. You're probably also shy and have social anxiety. There is a limited belief templates you can use on these two pages: How To Get Rid of Your Public Fears - No More Social Anxiety or Being Shy and You’re Not Too Short To Attract Women! How To Get Past This Limited Belief
- Enhancing your strong points. You have lots of them so why not enhance them.
- Developing and building confidence, esteem, and self worth. How To Be Confident Around Women – No Experience Needed?
- Listing your specific goals, aspirations, and describing to yourself your perfect woman. You can leave them here: What Are Your Goals With Girls? Do You Know Exactly What You Want?
- Creating then necessary boundaries between your masculinity and her femininity. Learning what makes you a man and her, a woman. Igniting Femininity: 14 Ways Women Define Masculinity - The Preview
During the many years I spent in the friends zone I was always too focused on getting women. I was always chasing them. I was always falling for them.
The only focus I had on myself was pity and the depressed helpless feelings I suffered with.
Once I learned how to DISTRACT myself I learned how to focus my new highly driven energy on becoming a man women would chase after me.
This means you should and will stop chasing women and get them to chase you. Then, amd only then, can you successfully pursue and seduce them.
All of that above will create all the distraction you'll need and you can move on to the next step.
The Second Step Is ATTRACTION:
Believe it or not, this is the easiest of the three and once in it, you'll be triggering attraction and enjoying the process...
IF you gain and maintain the courage plus the strength to perform and practice it a lot with everyone so stick with it.
- Get yourself a real education on attraction. Learn how to create it and amplify it. Learn the steps needed to turn any woman on. Here’s How To Meet And Date The Kind Of Women You’ve Always Wanted – Double Your Dating - Outside book link.
- Dispel any and all myths about sex. Dispel any and all myths about what women really need. Are These Myths About Women Standing Between You And Dating Success?
- Learning how to talk to women. 7 Ways To Speak The Secret Language Of Attraction
- Learning how to approach women. Approach Women With No Anxiety & Fears – Four Words Changes Everything and A Simple Way To Approach Her and Close The Deal Every Time!
- Learning what a woman's test is and how you can create your own tests to qualify women. How Women Test Men - How To Pass Them and Enjoy Effortless Success and How Women Test Men - How To Pass Them and Enjoy Effortless Success
- Getting women to qualify themselves to you. How To Stop Disqualifying Yourself
- Challenging women with charm, wit, and your own sexuality. Top Ten Ways to Challenge Women to Feel Attracted to You
- Learn about why mature masculinity is highly attractive to women. Igniting Femininity: 14 Ways Women Define Masculinity - The Preview
- Learn the exact reasons women are attracted to Alpha Males. Developing A Mysterious Attitude And Attractive Personality
I was not clueless on what it took to attract women, I noticed it long ago. Even the subtleties of it, but I did not have a clear understanding on how it all worked but more importantly, my limited mindset didn't allow me to objectify it use it.
I was also missing important pieces and without them attracting women was just a guessing game where the odds were always stacked against me.
Follow the links above and then continue on to the next step.
You'll be in a different state of mind. You'll also be very busy and by now, seeing this friend of your a lot less.
She'll be wondering where you are, how come you don't come around as often, why you're not texting or seeing her like you once did.
She'll be overly curious and now, the interactions - the when, where, and how are on your time table, not hers. You're in CHARGE!
You now can RE-INTRODUCE yourself to her because you've given her the gift of missing you.
The Third Step is RE-Introduction:
- Re-introduce yourself to her slowly.
- Start flirting and teasing her a little.
- Don't brag or boast about yourself... ever.
- Allow her to see the change happen.
- Introduce her to your new friends casually.
- Still meet other women and date them.
- Maintain your boundaries.
Chances are you've made some mistakes in the past so go through the pages which reveal what you must now avoid doing. Use it as a check list to assure you're on the right path:
Honestly, there's a lot going on in this step, which is why the lack of links, it pretty much takes care of itself because you've already been working your ass off and setting up a lifestyle that ATTRACTS women.
It's time to be persistent and stay balanced.
If you need some cool help, I used this to keep me on track: 77 Laws - All The Best Concepts And Techniques For Succeeding With Women In The Fastest Time Possible
I admit it. I sat on my ass for years and did absolutely nothing to get a better experience out of life.
I was comfortably numb on the outside but inside I was a whining and crying wussy begging the world to give me what I wanted.
The final stage of re-introduction made me realize what I was missing in the past. It also showed me how everything I was learning actually worked.
I learned, even though I knew sitting on my ass was getting me nowhere, introducing myself to the world did more than allow myself to grow and get me out of the house.
I learned how social dynamics is not just about attracting women. Suddenly every area of my life was being affected in a positive way.
And that my friend felt wonderful!!!
Just be careful because it's all too easy to slip back after a few rejections.
It's also easy to get caught up in a new social lifestyle. For me it was hitting the bars, clubs, getting drunk, and maxing out my credit limit which put me in severe debt.
Ha, minor shit compared to being alone and miserably in love with a women who would only ever see me as friend. Them, those old friends, well let's say I went back and had some good old-fashioned fun with a few of them.
Now - get out of here and get to work!
We're done for today.
P.s. Maybe more to come?
The Reality Behind A Woman's Attraction To You -- All Her Signs and Signals Of Interest Revealed!
Have you ever asked yourself, “I wonder if she likes me...” , only to create even more doubt inside your head? Feeling even more unsure and pissed off about an answer you don't seem to have as you try to figure it (her) out?
AND... This probably wasn't a one time thing either, was it?
You DO IT ALL THE TIME with EVERY woman you "think" might be into you!
It's not getting any better too because you've been wrong before, she didn't like you, and you know you'll be wrong again.
Harshly rejected and forever banished to her friends zone as you scurry away in yet another uncomfortable moment...
Confused, broken, dejected, numb, and pissed off!
The really shitty part is that you've been thoroughly convinced many times some woman gave you all the signs and signals that she was attracted to you, yet you still managed to misread the situation.
Almost like nature and women are playing some cruel "keep away" game with your head just for a few laughs at your expense.
I have some GREAT news for you man, TODAY IS the day it all changes for you!
I'm going to reveal to you the many signs a woman is feeling attracted and interested in you so you're never left guessing again: