Many of men have attempted the daunting and daring feat of... TRYING to make a woman happy and have failed miserably every time!
So why bother? You might ask and rightfully so.
Is it to see her smile? The reward of sex or something less? The peace and quiet which could come after a fight?
Since this IS DiaLteG™ and I'm here to enlighten you on attracting women...
Hence the constant barrage you've probably sent of gift giving, romantic gestures, dinner dates with her hopefully favorite foods, lots of approval seeking, and of course, the never-ending questions you ask trying to raise her comfort level when she looks out of place.
But it doesn't really work, does it?
Well not in the real logical sense of it all if you were to look at all the types of guys women fall for who do very little to make their girlfriends or wives happy.
In fact, they do the opposite, don't they?
These "bad men" cause, create, or manufactures emotional turmoil. Drama filled on and off relationships.
Pain, hurt, bitterness...
Curiously followed by yet another attempt for HER to make it work with HIM???!!!
Exclaiming to whomever will listen, "You don't know him like I do."
Sadly enough, using love, commitment, or even pride (among many other reasons) as her refusal to move on.
How about we take a quick peek into how these guys "do it".
How they refrain from creating happiness and yet still draw in women where most "try-hard" guys fail.
How the typical "nice guy" does it wrong and why too.
And most importantly...
WHY you should NOT try to make a woman happy. What you must do IF you actually DO want to make her happy.
Here are the three types who do attract women and not in the "good" way.
Type 1: THE JERK:
The jerk (or asshole whatever you call him is fine with me) changes a woman's emotional states constantly. Some women become addicted to it and seek it out.
He creates a roller coaster of "fun" with huge climbs up and fast deep dips down. Unfortunately for her, the "thrilling fun" never lasts but the high heart-pounding emotions do.
A woman can easily become attracted to his "I don't give a fuck about anyone!" attitude (or fake indifference - the real stuff is here) and then gets sucked into it all often making it too late to get out easily.
It's obvious "making and keeping" a woman happy is not something the jerk truly cares about because he's all about himself and will right anyone who gets in his way.
His self-centered attitude assures she comes second to him.
Type 2: THE BAD BOY:
The bad boy usually does it for women with pure excitement. His "living on the edge" is sexy, fun and also highly addictive to almost any woman who comes even close to him.
A woman's happiness is not the intention of the bad boy because as far as he's concerned, she's just along for the ride.
Lots of women will attempt to tame his edge off and while doing so, find themselves deeply attracted to him yet left with a feeling of helplessness and a longing for stability.
This toxic mixture can lead to a lifetime crush a woman might find herself dreaming even years down the road - still unhappy about the "one" that got away.
Type 3: THE PLAYER:
There's no need to explain that the player's end game is definitely not a woman's happiness although, if he's good at his "craft" he wants her to believe it is.
His goal of flipping her emotional states (to create attraction) is achieved best by how good he can play the game and for how long he can keep it up before he gets caught.
He'll play whatever role works for a specific woman which can include "making her happy" but since she's always left with a feeling of being used her unhappiness follows along with the lingering effects of whatever attraction he managed to create.
Moving on to the type of guy who seems more concerned with her happiness and yet does little to attract women...
THE NICE GUY:
Most nice guys are deathly afraid of a woman's core emotions and will do whatever they can to smooth them over, eliminate them entirely, or stop them from happening altogether.
The intentions are good and it's understandable why they do it, considering it's who they are, but the specific actions chosen leads to losing self-respect, dignity, and giving up any chance of creating attraction long-term or short-term.
What makes matters worse, from a woman's point of view, it feels manipulative and fake - because it is.
In reality, their goal of making her happy is actually a selfish act and only proves to be emotionally greedy and therefore unattractive.
You can read all about why in these articles:
You've been show three types of men whose been proven to attract women better than the nice guy, and not one of them seem to be at all concerned with a woman's happiness.
So what's a good guy like you to do now?
If it's not too obvious...
Stop trying to make her happy.
Her happiness must become a side-effect or a reaction to who you are and her deep attraction towards you.
You can not make (or force) someone else's happiness but you can do things and create moments which stimulates the emotions associated with happiness.
The attraction a woman feels WILL make her happy and when that is connected to you, just being around or close to you... makes her happy.
"Attraction is an emotional and physical RESPONSE... and you can't convince a woman to feel it with logic, gifts, and NICENESS.
Attraction is the result of a woman meeting a man who understands how attraction works and who knows what to do in each specific situation to progress to the next level.
The PROBLEM with ATTRACTION, and with success with women in general is that the things you need to DO to be successful are NOT OBVIOUS.
They're "counter intuitive", in many cases.
In other words, they're the OPPOSITE of what you'd THINK would make sense.
You have to do things like CREATE TENSION... stop doing something that she likes... give her time to miss you... etc..."
Think about how you feel when you meet an amazing woman who does it for you and for any brief moment, you know she's into you.
Makes you happy, doesn't it?
Makes you want to run to the roof tops and pound your chest.
Makes you feel like a real MAN... a HAPPY man!
The same goes for a woman when she meets a guy who does it for her.
She's not going to go pound her chest, that would be weird, but depending on her internal state, she's going to create her own happiness and go with it.
Your responsibility is to just BE THE MAN who does it for her and everything else falls nicely into place.
Giving a woman a gift means nothing if it's coming from a guy she feels nothing for and it's kind of creepy too.
Romantic gestures aren't really romantic at all without attraction. It's more of a pathetic attempt to gain her approval and you know it.
Continually asking a woman if she's okay or if she's comfortable and not respecting her enough to take care of herself only sends a message that she can't handle in the simplest things in life.
None of those things actually make a woman happy at all. In fact, they often do the opposite.
I'm NOT advocating you should start treating women like shit or to become one of those guys above who hurt women.
My goal is to STOP you from doing things which do NOT work so you'll have the best chance of getting many other things right, which creates a REAL ATTRACTION, and therefore...
Makes BOTH of you HAPPY!