"Reasons for Failing With Women #22 - You Talked About Your Mother Too Much On The First And Second Date – You Don’t Know How To Make Dating Fun And You’re Always Trying To Prove To Others What A Great Guy You Are."
Seriously? You're talking about your Mother on a date... again? I don't even care if your Mom is rich and famous it’s best to avoid making this surprisingly common mistake.
Sure, mentioning your Mom on a date might seem okay. Maybe you're just trying to show her you're a family man who cares and understands what's really important in life.
Maybe you're trying to show you're not just looking for a quick lay and you feel talking about your Mother can help her to see it.
But there's more to this problem you have to first understand and get, if you want to make sure it's not costing you second dates or the attraction of a woman.
There's no need to prove you're one of the good guys, she'll figure it out.
Trying to show a woman who you are is never the attractive way to go about getting it done.
I hate to say "just be yourself" so I won't for many reasons but think hard about this, really hard because it's missed by so many people...
If you're just who you are, where does TRYING come into play?
You should never have to prove you're a good guy because if you do good things, then THAT is what makes you a decent man and others will take note of it.
You’re a good guy because you DO good things.
You’re a good guy because you don’t force your beliefs onto others – physically or mentally."
The same (sort of) rule applies here:
If you love your Mother, if you are a good family man, if you DO care about those more important things, then there's absolutely no need to try and prove it to anyone.
Just do what you do and others will see it.
If they don't see it (or if you're failing to communicate this "niceness" in a way to make it easy for them to see it), then forcing it or trying overly hard to make it known will actually make you less than the decent man you are because...
A person of high moral character never forces these things on others.
You're on a freaking date man!
Have fun. Enjoy it.
Seriously - talking about your Mother can not be the greatest thrill in the world for you or her.
The ONLY time you should mention your Mother while you're on the first few dates with a woman is if the topic comes up directly from her.
But at that point I would seriously suggest and advise when and if she does it, that you immediately and playfully accuse her of trying to get in good with your Mother because she's already thinking about marriage and children tying you down.
Yes, accuse her of liking you a little too much and how she's already starting to smother you but also how you think it's kind of cute too.
Notice the difference because one is fun and flirty as in cocky/comedy and the other is a huge turn off.
There are definitely lots of more exciting and attractive topics to talk about in the early stages of dating so this Mother thing should NOT be your go-to topic.
Go through the posts below because they will give you everything you need to have some real exciting and attractive conversations on your date... guaranteed:
...From The Master Bobby Rio...
Here's what the video will show you:
- Ignite Her Flirtatious Side - Use a weird conversation trick that gets her flirty and wild within seconds, even if you’re not her type.
- Make Her Crave Your Attention - This special type of "small talk" will have her hanging on your every word, waiting to go home with you.
- Spark Instant Chemistry - Gets her feeling intense chemistry and attraction to you, all completely under even the most guarded woman’s radar.
Yes, I get it, YOU are expected to do a lot in dating and often your reward for all this hard work is a humble rejection, lost time, and money too.
Which is just one more reason to make sure you and her at least enjoy the best of it while spending the least amount of money.
So, as the title states, don't ruin it by bringing up your Mother so early and using her ANYWHERE in your conversations.
Creating great dates can be a little difficult at first, you're not alone there.
Luckily there are lots of great people who have done the research for you and can give you the best opportunity to assure a great time mixed with a very real measurement of success.
Next - go through the posts below to create fun and inexpensive dates. Make them an amazing memorable experiences for the both of you.
The quick conclusion...
Yes - I get it, you want to do everything you can to show that great girl you're into her for more than just a one night stand.
Sex is cool and all, but you're looking for something more.
My point is:
Talking about your Mother or any attempt to PROVE yourself to a woman that you're a great guy is NOT attractive.
You don't have to prove it, just BE one and the right women will see it.
There's absolutely no need to make yourself look or appear needy and beg for her approval, because it makes you look desperate and of weak confidence in dating.
So make the DATE count.
Make sure it's worth all the effort you've put into it and yourself too.
Focus on having fun in a way which naturally moves your attractive conversations forward and into her heart.