Years ago, back when Dinosaurs ruled the earth, okay let’s not go back that far, how about just before I truly understood one of the most generalized and talked about “subjects” in the world…
I loved every part of them.
Their cute smiles.
Their endearing laughs.
The way their hips swayed when they walked.
A simple elegant touch from them.
Every last mesmerizing curve on their body.
The intoxicating, invigorating, and energizing feeling I would get when I saw them.
The only part of the female charm I did not like – was “her” complete and utter mystery which represented to me a goal I thought I could never achieve.
Always so close by but never intimate in a way I really wanted.
For so long all I wanted was companionship…
To wake up next to my “beauty” and share my life with her.
Even as far as showing our love off just to make other couples jealous, somewhat envious on the great thing we found in each other.
I wanted my dreams to become reality but living out a “real true love” in every sense of the word only made me feel even more lonely.
It never seemed fair – How could such a strong desire to share love feel so freaking bad – while so many others seemed to have and get it without even trying.
How could wanting something so natural make my heart feel so worthless and forever-broken?
How could loving women so much turn me into a such a pathetic and hopeless romantic?
Always emasculated, frustrated and willing to do anything for any pretty woman who would love me back half as much than I ever experienced before.
Thinking back, those years I spent alone taught me something about myself.
It allowed me the time to become completely comfortable about myself and the situation I felt destined to be in… single for life.
Except the comfortableness eventually turned into complacency.
I felt destined to be alone.
Destined to sit on the side lines to only watch the game.
I was settling in for a lifetime of either failure if I tried, or learn how to re-focus my efforts and give 100% to every talent I owned. Which I did.
But no matter how hard I tried to “forget” about all the women who never loved me back by “keeping myself busy” the feelings never went away.
I was just hiding and pushing it all away.
For every women I met the pattern was always the same.
What I did. How I acted. How I’d put myself close and become her friend. How every moment I wished she’d make a move so I wouldn’t have to because I was too scared.
None of which obviously worked.
But it was okay.
I had my life going on and would stumble on without them anyways. Apathy became the closest friend I had ever known.
My gratitude to the women I so casually rattled off, all true in name and still hold a clear smiling picture in my mind, is not meant to be sarcastic.
The goal was not to show bitterness and despair.
The gratitude is real because EVERY woman who rejected me, actually inspired me.
The guy who loved women too much, who would do anything for them, who only wanted to be loved, endeared, chased, and who so easily cherished every piece that even her faults were always “kind-of cute” was INSPIRED by all the rejection and pain.
AND I think you can too because…
If you have way too many unforgettable loves but had to settle for none, you CAN use them as a solid building block to unlimited strength and attractiveness.
You’ve suffered the rejections.
You’ve learned to deal with it all as best as you can.
You’ve managed to move past them one-by-one and still found a way to keep your head up.
If you find yourself having to constantly re-focus to numb the pain of your past, then you have the ability to focus that very same energy like you have never before…
And to use it to discover ABSOLUTE SUCCESS with lots of awaiting women.
Look at every past woman who resides in your head, see their most adorable pose as clear as you can and…
If they make you smile, if you still love them, if you still feel empowered by a “new” woman who catches your eye despite your past, if you can not escape being overly emotional because you just can not help but feel something for ALL women…
Thank them now before apathy sets in and you settle for something I’ll call “complacently single.”
Just before I hit my bottom, which by the way what I thought was the bottom was really just another trap-door into feeling nothing, I got so sick and tired of believing I had to settle, I focused every bit of that energy to learn and understand women better than ever before.
They have done you a favor.
They have helped you become STRONG.
They have helped you become RESILIENT.
They have shown you that your life doesn’t have to revolve around women.
They have given you the time to find YOURSELF which is a huge step in the direction of becoming an extremely attractive man with lots of choice.
No matter where you are today – no matter how bad, lonely, and sad you might be feeling over this whole “woman” thing…
This is NOT rock bottom.
Yo’re just in a different place and that doesn’t have to be a bad place.
All those women you’ve loved before who never loved you back has shown that you’re more than capable of love, giving it and receiving it is an important piece of getting and being in a great relationship.
So USE it all to your advantage like I did years ago.
Starting today. No excuses. No more looking back.
Thank them all and say goodbye – you’ve got places to go and women to meet AND attract.
Write down the first names of EVERY woman or girl you thought you loved but never liked, loved, or wanted you in the same way.
Write down EVERYTHING you enjoyed and loved about them. Every last detail no matter how small, big, weird, strange, or personal.
Get them all out of your system.
Say, “Thanks for everything. Great to have met you but I must be going. Probably won’t catch you later… but it’s been FUN.”
Start saying “HELLO” to a new better, attractive place with all the women you’re going to meet while moving FORWARD in your new life.