One of the first things that was asked of me when the decision was finally made to get some kind of control over my women/girl issues was to write down my specific goals.
What did I want to achieve?
Where do I want to see myself later in life with regards to girls, women, dating, relationships?
What EXACTLY was my main purpose for buying an Ebook on attracting women?
This is NOT a joke.
You must take this seriously because it's very important. Think about it:
If you don't know what you want, then how are you going to get it. If you don't know where you're going, how you're going to get there doesn't matter, does it?
Your goals and success in dating & relationships ARE IMPORTANT no matter what they are.
Whether they're short-term or long-term also doesn't matter. Whether you change them in the future also doesn't matter.
What DOES matter the most is that you DO have them AND you're willing and ready to achieve them.
My main goals or objectives were kind of lame or obvious for a dude but considering where I was in my life, it was something I so desperately needed.
Attract women. Get them to see me as more than just another platonic friend.
Get some dates... finally.
Really that was it and I'm perfectly okay with it. Later they were changed to find an amazing girlfriend and as time passed my goals became increasingly more specific.
Which is a good thing.
Once you know your larger goals you can be more specific and write down everything to the last detail.
This makes achieving them (something or anything) a lot easier.
Think about the goal of finding or getting a girlfriend:
- Well what's the problem?
- Do you know how to talk to girls?
- Are you meeting enough of them?
- Are they blowing you off?
- Are they giving you fake numbers?
- Where are you meeting them?
- Do you get one date and never hear from them again?
You can now see how the details really do mean something in achieving those goals.
If you don't know how to talk to a girl AND create attraction then that's something you need to work on or else you'll probably never get a girlfriend unless you step in some really good shit.
Since that's your goal, relying on luck isn't going to help.
If you're not meeting enough of them, then you now know - that's part of your new "refined" goal.
Couple that with getting a girlfriend and you'll quickly realize it's not a numbers game, you must also focus on the TYPE of women you want to be your girlfriend.
If you're not meeting them in the right place, well than that has to change right away.
If it's a date thing (meaning you can get dates) but they never call back or you don't want a second one with them then your primary focus would differ than just getting girlfriend.
It might be where you're taking them, how you're interacting with them, what specifically you're doing or they're doing which is causing the problem.
Again - the details are important no matter what your goals are and they must be known to you.
I'd write them down and rework them constantly because you'll get a clearer image that way.
Just keeping them in your head won't be enough unless you have memory powers well beyond the average person.
This post was generally for my newsletter subscribers to be more vocal about what they're looking for but if you're just a guy passing through feel free to add yours below.
Trust it will help.
You don't have to leave your real name if you're worried that some chic going to see it or some other dude might thrash you because of it.
Remember I moderate these comments and will not allow one guy to bash another guy's hopes and dreams AND I'll tend to keeping the evil or demeaning ones off the post so we don't have to read how some sicko just wants to fuck an animal or perform illegal acts.
The rest, the legitimate, the legal, they're all good.
Go ahead and leave a few of them below.
Tell us what you REALLY want or DESIRE.
Get them written down and get to achieving them as soon as possible.
(I won't guarantee 100% but I will say, just working towards them not only gives you more of a chance to succeed but also makes you more attractive to women - no matter how far you get with them. Lots of women just like a guy who at least tries something!)
Thanks in advance for sharing all your goals with women or girls (depending on your age or specific goals or however you tend to name the females you meet. It's all the same to me but to you, it might differ) and hopefully now you'll finally get around to taking care of it like I did ten years ago.
It's been a remarkable journey. One I think you'll enjoy it too.
It's time for you to start getting what you want from your dating and relationship life.
What are your specific goals you would like to achieve in your dating and relationship life?
What do you really want and desire?
UPDATE: Seems guys just don't have any goals with women OR are willing to air them out publicly OR just respond kindly to articles like this.