Dating can tough enough as it is but when you add trying to figure out where to meet up for the actual date it can be very frustrating and time consuming.
Below you’ll find a quick list of 32 places (or great date places) to choose from to help you decide. Attached are also some helpful tips you can use. Before we get to the list here are some other ways you can find places to go and make the date experience better and more enjoyable for the both of you. Seeing how a better date has a chance of happening again.
First, try and get yourself out of using the words, “Where can I take a date?”
Start asking yourself a different set of questions and you’ll make it easier to find more places most people might overlook. You’ll also have a better opportunity the make the date a lot more fun and romantic.
Tip# 1: Ask yourself more revealing questions that will give you better ideas for the date or dates.
- Where can you both go which will be lots of easy fun? Fun should be included in the date and it definitely helps if you know what she’s into but it’s not required.
- Where can you go where you can actually talk to each other comfortably? You’re dating to get to know each other so talking freely is a must. Besides it gives you lots of easy opportunities to create attraction.
- If you’ve date a few times already, you’ll probably want to ask yourself what place would give you the best opportunity to become intimate. What places are quiet and have a built-in romantic atmosphere?
- Here’s something most guy miss… What would be a good second place to go if you both don’t want the night to end? No need to think on your feet. Have something prepared ahead of time. Normally the second place is a little more quiet and like above, has a built romance thing going on. Making it easier to get real close.
Tip #2: Dating can be a nervous “event”. They often cause a lot of anxiety but it doesn’t have to be that way.
Use a play on words to fool yourself. Yeah, it’s cheesy but it works. In other words it’s not a date. Call it something else ( and no, a hook-up wouldn’t be good either). It could be a fun night out. Meeting up with an amazing woman. Going to (then plug in whatever you’re going to do) .
My point is, why apply more pressure to you and your date. It’s really just two people going out and getting to know each other. Don’t make it harder than it really needs to be.
Tip #3: Explore and discover your immediate area or surroundings.
Spend a little time researching your area and all the places you would normally overlook on a typical drive. You know when you’re more concerned with getting somewhere you miss lots of cool places. Take notes if you have to. I know it sounds corny but I’m serious. Learn all those little known secrets.
Instead of just driving somewhere with a destination in mind. Go out for a walk or drive for the sole purpose of finding new, unique, and exciting places you could take a date.
Tip #4: Match and mix the places up for a better date experience.
Don’t think dinner and a movie. That’s bad and boring and doesn’t allow for any real fun. There’s way too much pressure & there’s no easy way to talk at a movie. (Besides they are way over priced and the snacks don’t let to more energy. They give you bad breath and make you sleepy. Not how you want to end your ate.
Dinners are also two people afraid to eat, who don’t feel comfortable being themselves, offer no real control of the outcome or the food, AND again don’t lead to anyplace special besides a bar. Another bad date idea if you want to have a great unique and special time.
Here’s what I really think of a dinner and a movie on the worst possible day… Valentines Day: Why A Valentine’s Day Date Should Never Be Dinner And A Movie
Oh yeah… back to the mix and match thing.
Since I insist you should always be prepared for two dates in one even if they don’t happen… think ahead and plan something back to back. Just make sure they match up together nicely. The second part of the evening should generally by more romantic. The first part is usually more heart racing or just plain fun.
See which one matches best with the other and if it’s possible. Prepare to make it happen BEFORE you leave.
Tip #5: Always plan ahead.
Granted some amazing dates have happened when nothing went as planned but why bother putting yourself in that position if you can avoid it or at least lessen the chance of it happening.
You don’t have to stick with it exactly but take the few minutes to think about what may or may not happen within the experience and be ready when it does. Try not to get locked down and be so strict with your agenda but when you take care of the little things you will find it easier to enjoy more.
Just take a few moments to experience what you’ll be doing in your head and look for clues as to what problems might come up and if it’s avoidable, be prepared. Simple advice but most people don’t think of these things before hand.
I say give yourself every opportunity to enjoy being with your date and sharing the experience and less time worrying or trying to fix something you could’ve dealt with before. Don’t go overboard here. You can not think of everything. Just the basics man. Just the basics. No OCD’ing the date.
Tip# 6: Keep This List Close By:
Either print it out or have it bookmarked to your phone. You can add or subtract from it and make notes for yourself. A big reason I developed this list was to take some of the anxiety out of thinking of places to go and to spend more time doing something else.
This way if and when a moment arises and you both want to do something else you’re not stuck staring at each other thinking and saying, “Well what do you want to do now?” That’s just a huge mood-killer, big time.
Tip# 7: Learn the “secret” formula to have amazing dates so that fun and great conversations are already naturally built in.
I wish this was my brilliant idea but it’s not so I’ll quote it up:
“Do something that has interested conversation and excitement built into it.
Think of 10 things you could do with a woman that cost little or no money but that include possibilities of all kinds of interesting conversation, adventure, excitement.”
You’re already going to find many of those ten listed below. I wrote up a few cheap places in the article The Cheapest Places To Meet Women Even If You’re Under 21 but I’m sure you’ll find plenty of them below.
Just make sure you follow tip 7 above and make sure there’s fun and interesting conversation built right in AND that you’re not spending a lot of money. Go to the article above and David’ll explain why you shouldn’t be “paying” too much for dates OR her attention.
32 Places To Meet Her For A Date
1. Museums or Art Museums
Check out these places before the date learn a little about what you’re going to see there. It will make you “look” cool. Well not really but if you don’t know anything about what you’re looking at, it could leave you a little tongue tied. Again it’s not essential just helps.
Incidentally they are rather inexpensive and ALWAYS have conversations built right in – just might not be the funnest place to visit unless you’re the type of guy who can make her laugh anyways.
2. Roller Blading or Roller Skating
Obviously this is not for everyone but if you’re athletic it can be a refreshing break from the typical dinner and a movie. Throw on the skates and go retro or find some blades and you’re off.
This wouldn’t be a most magical date but depending on where you live, what your plans are, it could work. It’s inexpensive but lend itself to great conversations. Plus you both might get a little sweaty after which may or not work out for you. But hey, it’s an idea.
3. Amusement Park
This is not something I would suggest for quick a first date but they are terrific for spending the day getting to know someone. You also may want to make sure your date is okay with thrill rides. I doubt you’ll want them to be puking the entire day or burning bright red from the sun.
Think ahead for this one and it can be costly so keep that in mind too. The good thing about amusement parks is fun and conversation are ALWAYS built in.
Rock concerts are better than Symphonies because you can interact with others and talk. Save the symphonies for intimacy and/or third/fourth dates. This way you can plan out the evening properly.
Please skip the dinner in this case. Imagine you’re at dinner and after you head to the symphony and sit for an hour at a time with your stomach doing cartwheels. Or worse yet, digesting your food and putting you both to sleep.
Concerts can be good but not always the best idea for a date. IF you do find something that’s cool especially if you’re both into music. My advice is to keep it local, small, inexpensive, and make sure it’s in a place you can still sit and chat.
5. Getting ice cream
Quick fun date. Who doesn’t love ice cream except for the occasional lactose intolerant. You can enjoy each other’s company and spend a short time getting to know each other.
This is an alternative to a coffee lunch for a first date. Simple but effective and if you find one which is outside even better. Fun isn’t built in but it’s certainly an inexpensive way to open some fun conversations. Some might say it makes you look cheap and boring, but I beg to differ – EVERYONE loves ice cream and it has a youthful fun theme to it.
6. Pool – The Pool Hall or Billiards
You can get a little healthy competition going and even make a few bets. As long as the winner is not getting tons of money so have fun with it. These places are not usually too bright or loud and they allow you to interact in a close setting. Making them a great place to take a date on your way to something else or a next place.
I have found quiet pool halls have space limitations so it’s easy to get close. Don’t worry if both of you suck at it, just have fun. Try not to spend too much time here because it can get boring so think of this as part of a full date. Be wary of the competitive thing, it’s good – just don’t get all bent or pissed off if she beats you.
7. The Zoo
This one, believe it or not, if you can pull it off or actually have on close to your area, is always lots of fun. Stay away from the cheap smelly animal farms and you should have a ton to talk about and lots of memories to take home with each of you.
If you’re athletic but never played make sure your date is not too good or you probably won’t have much fun. It’s just that this game is difficult for two people to play when one of them doesn’t know how. But giving each other or one another a quick lesson can work for creating some closeness. If you’re both average and in shape, Tennis is a great workout and a simple afternoon.
Seeing how you’re both going to need a shower after this date it will be a probable end to a date. You won’t be able to talk much but it still leaves plenty of room for teasing in a competitive environment.
Have you ever heard someone say they have live somewhere for so long but never noticed the sights tourists often visit. Well… become a tourist with your date. If your date is into it you could both dress up as tourists and role play a little. Of course probably a better 4th or 5th date but you never know.
There are wine tours, boat tour, “dam tours from your dam guide”, mountain tours, etc… don’t restrict yourself to something only “older” folks do. It’s cheap, can be fun, and certainly leaves room for lots of talking.
Most people overlook this one. A walk in the park at dusk kicks ass. You get outdoors, great sights, beautiful sky. It really sets a romantic mood. If you go early bring a Frisbee or even leave a blanket in the car to sit down and talk. This date leaves a ton of options if you are prepared for it.
I wouldn’t suggest it for someone who is struggling with conversations or comfort but once you have that down, I think you’ll find this date is great for building attraction. Some say “walking” is not a date but whether you live in a city (which is a great place to walk and explore) or in the suburbs – just find a great place to start your journey, make sure it has places to stop – eat or drink – and it can be a relaxing alternative to a traditional date PLUS it doesn’t cost a thing.
11. Flea Market
Strange place as far as I’m concerned but women love to shop for unusual and unique items. I know you don’t have to buy something and that works out great and even better for you. However if you do find something you can relate to – go ahead and pick it up because you never know what kind of memory you can use later if you date even more.
All you need to do is talk about all the different items you see while you walk around. Imagine this date is a filler when you’re really pressed for time and just want to meet up someplace with alcohol or coffee involved.
12. Apple Picking – Strawberry Picking
This could be unusual as a first date but you’re outdoors picking fresh fruit in the warm sun. What more could you want? As a later date this is so cool. So if you really want to turn up the heat, plan ahead. Use this as a start and finish at your place by actually preparing a meal with what you picked.
Have some recipes and the ingredients ready or keep the picking short and stop at a market on the way to your house or apartment with your date.That could also add some fun. Inexpensive and fun and you both go home with some tasty fruits.
13. Boat Ride
If you’re near water and you have the money, a boat ride can feel like several dates in one night. You can enjoy drinks, dancing, a band, intimacy, Karaoke, and even some gambling. The fresh air, bright moon and the soothing waves are a great romantic setting. You also might want to know how your date is on water. Some people just can not handle a boat ride no matter how smooth.
A little costly for some but don’t let that stop you. Everything else is already built in. Just plan ahead for this one – you both could get drunk, you have to find your way home after, she could get seasick, etc… Just think about it before you set off from port.
14. Ball Game or sporting event
Basketball. Baseball. Hockey. Football. It’s up to you and where you live. Don’t be afraid to attend events that are not professional either. I’ve had way more fun at small events on a date myself.
Smaller venues have lots of advantages. They’re much more personal and cheaper. They’re also easier to get in and out of so you’re not spending half your time stuck in traffic. It’s easier to chat in the smaller ones too. Plus if they’re not too professional you both might be less focused on the game and on each other. AND Let’s face it, the people playing may not be getting paid millions but they’re having fun enjoying a passion of theirs. Thrive on the energy and allow you and your date to really get into it with you.
15. Charity Event – Give a little
If you do this in your everyday life, invite your date to join you. If this is not typically you, explain to your date it’s something you’ve considered and just decided that day would be a great day to start giving a a little.
You could say how cool it would be to share this new experience with someone new. The added bonuses are you control how much to give, the recipient gets a monetary boost, done modestly makes you look kind of cool, and everything is built right in because they can be very fun depending on the charity.
16. Barbecue – Yummmmm!!!!!
Messier the better. I talking Ribs, Chicken, and Corn on the Cobb. Anything where you going to need a bib, a ton of napkins, and your hands. Ask yourself this…
Do you want to date someone who is willing to get down and dirty with you once in a while and who is willing to throw out the looks of others and just have fun with it?
Or would you rather get stuck into trying to keep everything neat and tidy and always say the right things? Can you see how this date may bring out people from their “Dating Persona” and allow them to relax? Granted more than one date of this in a row is not smart but once just once, take them out for any hand fed food you both can enjoy to get messy.
17. A Hike – Hiking
Walking. Outdoors. Getting in shape. Great views and awesome backdrops. What more could you want for a cool setting on a date? You will also remember this is a date and pick a spot which is not too physically draining.
Again…prepare for the worst like rain storms and cold weather and prepare for the best like stopping for a while. Think ahead. It’s cheap, exhilarating and leads itself to chatting and getting to know each other.
You might find it difficult to find one of these but if you do they can be fun. Lots of people having a good time. Sometimes there is alcohol involved and sometimes there is not.
Either way, a warm fire on a cool night can be a great ending or an alternative to a typical date. It’s at night, a place you can snuggle up, inexpensive, off the beaten path (meaning it’s not very typical making it unique) plus there’s something about a huge fire that gets people’s blood boiling which is perfect for getting physical.
This sounds a little cheesy, but don’t let the name fool you into believing you this can not be a cool date. Choose your food wisely and make sure your date brings something also. Surprise each other and if you happen to bring the same item enjoy the connection.
There will be insects bugging you and some people can not relax lying on the ground. Don’t be afraid to make it modern and bring some lounge chairs. A cool idea would be to set up close to dusk and if you can find a spot where night-time fireworks are going to be set off make sure you have a great view.
Never discount a picnic as a date no matter how old or young you are.
The more unusual the better. It’s unfortunate most people get in the habit of only going to see popular shows, or shows they believe their date already knows and enjoys. I like the unique shows put on by people who are just there because they enjoy doing it. It may not even be their careers. And sometimes the show is awful, and sometimes the show ends up being a cult classic. You just never know.
Look for themes that are enjoyable and fun. Stay away from dramatic shows. It’s okay if it makes you think, but you won’t find it enjoyable if it’s too dramatic. If you’re really want to be different find a show which may require participation.
These things kick ass as far as I’m concerned. Sure they’re corny, the prizes are lame, but if you allow yourself to get caught up in the moment you’ve got it all here. Stupid fun food and games. You get the opportunity to talk and compete with your date. Some even have mechanical bull rides.
If you’re able and have never tried it I think you’ll enjoy doing it just once. This is another one of those ‘let yourself be young’ dates and if who you are with is struggling to enjoy themselves you’ll know quickly the type of person you are dealing. If you good at making others feel great no matter where they are then the fair is your opportunity to show off this great asset in your personality.
Loud clubs may not be great for everyone. Some of you may want to try country dancing or any participation dance. If you’re really adventurous Latin dance is the best. I’ve even know someone buying a dance lesson for two and bringing their date to enjoy the lesson with them.
The problem with this one is obvious, dancing is mostly done in a club which can be a pain in the ass for a date. Keep it mind before you make this decision.
23. Laser Tagging
Competition. Running around like kids playing kick the can. Some of you may not do this often and it may take some convincing but I’ve found once you’re there and getting into it, it really does bring out your childhood just a little.
Run with it and let yourself enjoy it. This is a cleaner alternative to the Pain Ball date below.
24. Paint Ball
My ex-girlfriend pointed this one out to me. Definitely lots of fun. Just remember you’re going to get dirty so plan around it. Like Laser tagging, if you let yourself have fun the child in you will want to come out and play.
If you’re not sure or if your evening won’t allow getting dirty and sometimes sweaty look around and choose Laser Tagging instead. Keep in mind both of these dates are not long so plan around it. They are also not great for conversations, obviously, so I would recommend structuring a date around this event but they do serve a purpose, they’re not usually that expensive and they are certainly lots of fun.
25. Shooting Skeet. Shooting Range
Again in lieu of my ex-girlfriend who loves to pop off guns. Obviously this is not for everyone and not a suggestion for most first dates. This depends on where you live and how your grew up.
Again this is not a long date and there will not be much conversation so plan around it and add it another event to attend. BUT you must admit the excitement of shooting a guy can rub off on your date and you too. Just be careful, stay safe, and if you’re a gun nut or whatever, keep it in the down low unless she is too. Some people are against it and if that’s your date, it’s not going to work out anyways or who knows, maybe you could sway her vote.
Ahhhhh the beach. Show off that body and let your date show off theirs. This is not just for the beautiful. Sure I remember being young and busting on those who were willing to bare most of themselves despite their physical attributes but don’t let that stop you. Stay sensible and have fun with it. If you’re both hot better yet but please don’t avoid this date because you’re not a supermodel.
You’ll have to again keep in mind your dates body, how easily they burn, if they can swim, little things like that, but this date can last as long as want or just be an afternoon catching some rays.
I have found conversation are tough in these situations. Don’t expect deep intimate moments when you are both greased up and relaxing. In other words this may not be a great first or second date recommendation but it does have its place in the dating world.
27. Local Events
Lots of medium to large cities will have publications of the local events. Pick one up and take it seriously. You’ll be surprised by what is going on right underneath your nose. You can surprise your date with a unique experience from throwing together a lame clay pot to participating in a fun pot luck dinner.
Don’t overlook this one. Local events show off your passion about your community and can make your date feel they are contributing to something different and rewarding.
28. Private Party
This one is quite obvious so there is not much to say about it. I feel most people avoid this date, especially as a first one, because it can get awkward if you know everyone and your date does not know anyone. Sure the introductions alone can be fun and it can show her how “cool” of a friendly guy you are who knows people – but she might not experience the same thing.
If you have a large social group and you want to avoid that, make it a double a triple date so both of you have a more comfortable niche to start from and it will work out better.
Bad, bad, bad…Hahahaha!!! But hey, if you are both into it. Go for it. It sucks if you and your date have to be half drunk to perform but why not… Use the alcohol sparingly and lower your inhibitions just a little. I don’t see it written where the singer needs to be trashed and told the next morning what they sang. And I do understand getting in front of an audience is tough for some but that’s why I say use (just) enough alcohol.
One item about this one is that nobody seems to prepare for it. It’s best to know where you are going but also what you’re going to sing. You might want to visit this bar ahead of time and do some research. Remember dating is about having fun and you can be spontaneous but researching ahead and preparing the details leaves more room for doing it.
30. Water Parks
This is a full date and it can tire both of you out. Depending on the stage of your dating this can be a fun afternoon where both of you bring other friends, or a full day in which you know your date well so you go it alone. Some places have hotels close by and you can wash off the sun and relax for a while before heading back out… Or even staying in your room to fully relax.
Again probably not a great first date – just an idea for a later one. They can be well overpriced and filled with screaming kids and pissed off parents. So be warned.
31. Go Karts – Four Wheeling – Snow Mobiles -Jet Skiing – Wind Surfing
Anything where you both get to drive around and/or get real dirty or wet.
Every area may be different but I bet within an hour of where you live, you’ll find one place to go where you both will enjoy it. These are mid or starter dates where you plan on going someplace after but they are filled with fun and competition. PLUS it gives you lots to talk about after you’re done. It’s a great place to CREATE a connection you can use later.
32. Shopping – Antiques – boardwalk – Malls – Stores
I understand this is not a typical place to take a date. You can think of this one as just a stop along the way. But if you have to pick something up and if you want to take someone to several places in the same outing, you can add this one to the list of things to do. Shopping is also something most women enjoy doing just try to refrain from buying her stuff. That’s not the smartest thing to do and it makes you look like you’re trying too hard AND that you’re trying to show off how much money you have.
Use these places as they are – a place to walk around with everything built in. Some malls have rides, small shops to grab a coffee or beer, outdoor patios, little shows you can watch, and lots of other “cute” things to do.
That about covers my short list on places you can take a date or meet up with her.
There are definitely lots of place I’ve missed so please share your wonderful ideas in the comment section below.
I’m sure you’ve thought of things to do which have missed my mind today. More great stuff like this when you sign up – so if you liked – thought someone else can use it – share it below and sign up to the DiaLteG TM newsletter below.
Keep in mind all the tips in the beginning, they will certainly help you create a better date for both of you.
Spend some time before the date setting it all up so you can spend the entire day or evening, connecting, having fun, enjoying yourselves, and doing what a date is meant for – getting to know each other.