Do Women Hide It When They Are Attracted to You?

Some say it's in a woman's best interest to hide her attraction for a guy. Would you say that's true because if do you agree,  you might be misreading every woman which can and will have a long-lasting negative affect in actually creating that attraction, understanding women, and why they do the things they so beautifully do.

There was a time where I too believed women were actually keeping their attraction a secret from me and oddly enough, finding out I was wrong was one of the BEST days of my life.

Keep reading and I promise to tell you why, what it meant to my "dating" life, and what it's going to mean in yours too.

Here's the truth and it's coming at you hard because I want to spare you a world of endless pain and suffering.

Very generally speaking it IS in a woman's best interest to not pursue a guy. Women are always taught to NEVER chase a guy.

I've advised and talked to many of them who would rather die alone and single to ever make the first move or ask a guy out.

She (or they) can be a little coy when you're confident and cocky and say things like this to them,

"Ha! You like me. I'm surprised you're not my number one stalker by now. What's taking you so long? Afraid of a little competition?"

To which she replies in the cute little way my wife always does with a sly cocky smile herself,


When it comes to flirting, sexually playing, pursuing, teasing - you know the fun little games men and women who LIKE each other do play - YES, she's going to ACT like she doesn't "want" it, but that is not HIDING it at all.

Not even in the slightest bit.

Here it is:

It's literally impossible for a woman to hide her attraction to a guy no matter how hard she tries, and it's NOT in her best interest so why would she even try.

The signs or signals or clues or whatever you want to call them are ALWAYS there.

Okay, before I get you too depressed it does happen, but they are the absolute exceptions to this "rule" and although I can't think of them all, it still means there are only a few.

High school girls.

Could be a lack of confidence. Could be a lack of understanding of how it all works.

Mostly it's towards a guy who she doesn't feel good enough for and can not believe a guy like "that" would like her back - BUT once the interaction starts - again IMPOSSIBLE for her to hide it.

At Work.

She may secretly like a guy in another department or even her boss and it's in her career's interest to maybe not pursue it BUT again, once the real interactions start - the signs are ALWAYS there..

In the now famous words of David DeAngelo which is the title, "Attraction Isn't A Choice"

Attraction Isn't A Choice!

What those words mean and how it relates to the "best day of my dating life" and why it has so much to do with the question of women HIDING their attraction is coming...

Imagine if you would, although as in my case you don't have to imagine something you're already experiencing or been through - that you really want some woman BUT you're not sure she's into you.

But just by chance you actually do something or tell her how you're feeling and  you get rejected hard.

Banished to the friends zone or blatantly sent away holding your tail or in this case "dick" between your legs.

If you're at all in the same mindset I was - you come up with a ton of excuses all centered around the belief the she does want you but for some reason she is either hiding it OR choosing not to feel something because of some stupid social thing going on.

(Like maybe you're not rich enough, good-looking enough, dumb enough, you're too nice, etc... Things you might believe in this post: Are These Myths About Women Standing Between You And Dating Success? )

However since Attraction is NOT a choice - that could not possibly be true.

The truth is she's NOT feeling it and she's trying to spare YOUR feelings or in some bad cases - get you away from her as quickly as possible.

Here are some more common examples:

You catch a girl staring at you and when you start talking to her she acts like she wasn't and blows you off.

Was she hiding it?


She was probably looking at something else, staring into space you were occupying, or caught in some fantasy and you woke her up.

You're good close friends with a girl and it feels like you're always flirting.

It feels like you really connect with her and so, over time, you FINALLY say something and tell her how you feel (hoping she'll say it back) and all you get back is the classic, "I'm sorry. I don't want to ruin the friendship." (This was my biggie by the way.)

Is your friend in that case hiding it?


No woman in her right mind who has been pining over her good or best friend, would ever turn down a guy she's into that much.

It just doesn't happen.

She wasn't hiding it.

She didn't want to keep her secret safe.

She just isn't feeling ATTRACTED to you and want to let you down easy.

(Sorry, it sucks. I hear and feel you.)

Maybe you're good friends and always flirting but for some reason when you get too close, she pulls away.

You hang out a lot and she's always contacting you...

But is she hiding her attraction, hoping and waiting you'll make a move?

How about when you meet a woman who is a little shy around OTHER guys but not you.

You're quickly thinking there must be a reason for it.

She doesn't talk to you like those "other" men.

Maybe she's hiding it because she's shy and you like the fact she's a little shy and it feels good that she's telling you things she wouldn't DARE tell anyone else. She MUST be feeling attracted to you, right?


Read this when you get a chance: 10 Clear Signs She Has Put You In Her Friends Zone & Does She Like You?

If she's opening up to you that easily, sharing all her thoughts especially about what she wants from men or what she struggles with in life AND she feels absolutely no reservations about telling you exactly what's on her mind...

She's even LESS likely to be hiding her attraction because it's just NOT there.

You see most real women can not hide their attraction BUT they are extremely good at not doing stupid stuff like blowing it with a guy they are attracted to which to lots of men, feels like they're keeping it a secret.

But in reality - they will withhold information from guys they're totally into because like you, they don't want to screw a good thing up.

The sad news here is - IF she's telling you things which feels like she opening up, too much information,  past history about men, or anything which make you like her less - then she's NOT worried at all if you like her or else she'd be smart enough to withhold that information until a later date.

(Sure some women do blow it here but it's usually when they're already on a date or something like that and if she's already on date with you, then she certainly is interested and feelings something. Or else she would not have agree to it - well except for the free meal I suppose. By the way, the secret to avoid that happening to you is to never take a woman on a dinner date. Boom, problem solved.)

Which brings me to the next point - deeper emotional feelings for a guy.

When a woman is feeling something like a deep attraction for a guy, AND they're dating - IF she's not sure how the guy feels about HER - then of course she'll be totally hesitant about revealing it until the guy says it.

BUT those are typically RELATIONSHIP feelings and her questioning whether you're feeling them too.

She's just not sure what you want from her.

She'll think things like,

"Does he just want to have sex with me?"

"Is he just looking for a one-night stand?"

"Is he looking for a girlfriend, wife, a commitment?"

"Why can't I figure out what this guy wants from me?"

"Is he really attracted to me?" etc...

Yet again - if she's on a date with you she's obviously not hiding her attraction.

In fact just her thinking like that makes it even HARDER for her to hide her attraction.

Quite literally IMPOSSIBLE.

She's just trying to withhold her feelings of wanting something more with you UNTIL she's sure you're feeling the same way.

Let's go back to the beginning here and get into why this is good news for you and why learning that women are not hiding their attraction became the BEST day of my dating life.

Starting with me - once I realized nothing was being hidden, that attraction isn't a choice, how women could not hide it no matter how hard they tried...

I stopped wasting my time on friendships that would never turn into something more.

I got out of my head and started paying better attention to the subtle hints and clues which happen when a woman IS feeling attraction. (Something you'll learn below.)

I stopped thinking or believing that just because a woman is opening up to me or talking to me differently than she does with other guys, that it meant she was attracted to me - because 99% of the time, it just wasn't true.

AND then, with this little magical piece of advice, as from a favorite Seinfeld episode of mine, "This is pure gold, Jerry. Pure gold!!!"

Stop looking around for signals from women that they’re “interested” in you.

Stop CARING whether or not a particular woman is interested in you.

Instead, start TRIGGERING the interest, and watching to see if women ENGAGE.

If they do, then assume that IT’S ON!

How To Tell If She’s Interested? STOP looking for signals!

Finally - knowing all that and studying the HOW to make the triggering happen - it was like someone gave me CONTROL. Lots of control and power over my success with women and dating.

No more wondering, guessing, or sadly hoping I was right and she "really really did like me".

No more wasting my time pining over women when nothing was there because I was positive without a doubt, that if I didn't create it from the first interaction, it probably wasn't there anyways.

It was like I had left behind all my failures with women, my past was clearly IN the past... leaving me with an unlimited amount of women in my future which could be easily brought to my present.

Granted my words are not perfect today.

Maybe today's post isn't the answer you were looking for.

Maybe you came by just hoping you were wrong and that hot girl you've had your eye on was hiding her attraction and you'd feel empowered to make a real move on her after reading it...

But hopefully for a few of you and possibly more...

TODAY is the start of something better and exciting very similar to what I experienced so long ago (shit I am getting old).

Now it's your turn...

Get out of your head and start paying attention to all the subtle clues women WILL give you when they're feeling attracted to you and know, without a doubt they ARE there because YOU CREATED THEM!

Woman Giving Signals of Attraction
There are many indicators of a girl’s interest in you. You just have to know where to look. The primary three are these:

  1. Actions (What she does that indicates her interest obviously)
  2. Words (what she says to you)
  3. Body language (what she does that indicates her interest subtly)

How to Tell If A Woman Is Interested In You

Please, if this is you, if anything you take away from all this today...

STOP wasting your time on friendships and hoping she likes you for whatever reasons you might believe that she's hiding it from you.

Take it from a guy who spent almost a decade and a half of his life in many different "friend zones" with women.

They were not hiding anything from me.

They just didn't like me "that way".

Feel empowered yourself. Start taking action. Get control over these issues once and for all.

In conclusion...

It's not really in a woman's best interest to hide her attraction AND it's practically impossible for her to keep it a secret.

There are plenty of "tells" and hints she gives up to an including how she responds and reacts to what you're doing that is causing them.

She's not choosing to feel something or not.

Just like you don't look at a woman and think,

"Hmmm maybe I feel attracted to her."

You either are or you're not.

Plain and simple.

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Moving on.


Women may withhold information about her feelings for a relationship with with a guy until she's sure he wants the same thing, but this only happens when you're dating her or on a date where it's obvious there's a good reason she's on that date with you.

The attraction part is not in question here.

Okay, there are exceptions and again you're more than welcome to tell your story below or add on to the list BUT they are just that - rare exceptions not always worth the time and effort exploring for today's purpose of believing a woman is hiding her attraction.


Asking this question about a friend of yours almost always means she's not feeling it and you are "just friends".

More than likely, astronomical odds are that unless you start doing something different with her - she does not or will not feel anything more.

She's not hiding it from you because really, what would either of you have to benefit from being so close together, single, so connected, and yet not be willing to let the secret out.

Think about all this hard BEFORE you let this belief a woman is hiding her attraction to you sink too deep because, based on my failures with woman AND now my success with them - it's best for your confidence, esteem, and success too to NEVER go there.

Cool. We're done. Later!

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Dave here I like the way you communicate, it makes me think. I am what I call a thinker, meaning I am always consciously thinking about something, usually a project or a future project how to proceed about things. But for some reason I never put it use in my social life probably because I was raised to believe only “sluts” want sex and who wants a slut, right? Right now she is looking pretty good. LOL anyway You make me think in ways I haven’t before and it is making me feel better about many things I just wanted to say I am glad I accidentally ran across your site and to say Thank You and keep up the good work. If you want to feel free to use this letter.
Thank You again your awesome and your teachings are also, Dave Allen

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  • La Polla

    This is so full of shit.

    • What search topic brought you here? Let me guess, you know some chic likes you so you keep bugging her as if she’s pretending… you think you can change her mind. But you just dont get it or women, therefore you will never get a woman for real. She doesnt dig you man, get over it. She probably thinks you are full of shit.

  • Sammy

    I’m old enough now that I’ve seen the patterns of human flirting/dating over and over and can answer this in some detail.

    Women generally don’t like to chase. A few might, but most don’t. If they know you are single, they will likely flirt or at the very least be friendly towards you. Even if they are shy, they will awkwardly chat a bit if you talk to them. If they aren’t sure if you’re single, they may play it cool to avoid the risk of getting hurt, and wait for you to approach them or make it more obvious you are available and interested.

    If they think you are already taken (or know for sure that you are), then unless they are sociopaths with zero morals they will likely try to distance themselves and focus their attention more on the men around you to make a point that they don’t care (even if they do). They may come across as distant and act really nice to everyone except you to try and create an invisible boundary.

    If I fall for a guy and he makes it clear he’s attracted too (not acting on it, but you are both very aware that there is a strong attraction), but then I find out he’s dating/married, then unless I can leave the situation entirely (my first choice) then I’ll do everything I can to convince myself I don’t actually like him and he’s not that great. Even if he is is the perfect match. Which makes it very very hard for both of us, as I end up coming across as too cold and distant and they assume they’ve done something to annoy me. But being around someone who likes you and you like back but can’t have is just painful otherwise. If it’s a situation you have to stay in (work, for example) then the only way to avoid going crazy is to try to actively focus on any negative points they have to the point that it overrides the original feelings. If you really are a perfect match and there aren’t many negative points, then you have to make even more of an effort to focus on the few bad things and (in my experience) you can end up over reacting to those bad things and coming across as really bitchy. It isn’t a fun situation for anyone to be in.

    I’m not sure if men experience the same level of emotional attraction to women they meet and like. At least not from what male friends/family tell me. It seems to be more a purely sexual thing until they really get to know her. The emotion comes later. Whereas I will meet a guy and develop an emotional/mental attraction that turns sexual (unless he’s really unattractive). So if I can’t be with him, I then have to detach myself entirely (i.e. just leave so he’s out of sight, out of mind) or work hard to train myself not to think of him as a great partner (much harder).

    It’s difficult because I’ve been told by divorced men in the past that they fell in love with me while their marriage was coming to an end and would have been very happy with me. But they thought I’d lost interest as I completely distanced myself when I found out they had a wife (albeit one they were in the process of divorcing). I loved them too, but had no interest in having an affair and had no way of knowing the marriage was ending anyway and they would be single in 1-2 years. So we both missed out and ended up alone.

    Guys… if you know you are definitely getting divorced (i.e. papers have been served and it’s actually happening, not ‘we’ve mentioned it during the last argument’) and are actively looking for another partner not an affair, make that very very clear. Just flirting with a woman while wearing a wedding ring is either going to make her want to distance herself from you (if she has any sense) OR you’ll attract a narcissist/gold-digger/sociopath/some other not so nice type that doesn’t care about sleeping with another woman’s husband.

    • Sammy

      I should add, the above situation from a man’s POV would look like a woman being awkward but friendly to begin with (while she thinks you like her back and there is a chance) and more relaxed around everyone else. But then switching to more distant/cold and less awkward (once she realises you are not available) while she tries to convince herself you’re actually a bad match and she isn’t missing out on anything. She’ll likely flirt with or praise other men in front of you to drive home the point. Doesn’t mean she’s lost attraction to you. Just means she is trying to protect herself from a broken heart by putting up walls.

      The author is correct in saying women are generally less relaxed and chatty towards men they are attracted to. We are awkward as hell around men we really like. If she treats you like a best mate, she likely just wants to be a best mate. If she has a ton of nervous energy, babbles, knocks stuff over, blushes, etc around you, then she wants more and hormones are screwing with her brain (same as men do around women they like). If she goes from that to suddenly cold and distant 99% of the time, she’s still attracted but has given up on ever being with you and is trying to protect herself. If you reach that point, still like her, are available, and don’t understand why her behaviour has changed, then ask her out before she moves on entirely.

    • Thanks for sharing Sammy. Much appreciated.

  • Hitch

    If she’s attracted to you, you will know it. There is no such thing as “hiding attraction” She subconsciously will be doing a lot of things that she’s not even aware of even if she is the least bit attracted to you no matter how hard she tries to hide it! The rule of thumb is, if you’re having to ask yourself if she’s attracted to you or if she wants you to approach her and/or ask her out, then she’s probably not, because even if you don’t approach them even the shyest girls will let you know some way or the other if they like you enough. I knew this one girl that was quiet,shy and introverted “basically one of the shyest girls I knew”and she liked my friend that was at one of our get togethers and at the end of the night SHE GAVE HIM HER phone number and her address!

  • John

    This is spot on! If someone is attracted to anyone it’ll be next to if not impossible to hide it no matter how hard you try,even the shyest people will give out buying signals even if they’re the least bit into you.But as far as hiding attraction goes,no interested woman is going to ignore your messages or phone calls unless she’s got anxiety issues and tell you “we’re good friends” or “you”re like a brother to me” or talk about other guys including guy friends or exes ,no matter how shy they are.If she says any of these things around you then you’ll have to take her word for it that she only sees you as a friend and she’s not “secretly in love with you” or “crushing on you”

    • Thanks John. 🙂

      • John

        No problem,if you know what to look for the women that do hide their attraction are actually easier to spot then the ones that are straight forward lol

  • Delphia

    Adding to my previous response… Why do I deny it? Mostly because deep inside I’m shy to make my feelings flat out open for the guy I have ATTRACTION to. In a relationship I would open up my feelings easily. But not when I’m unsure of how he feels and would be embarrassed if he doesn’t have the same feelings towards me. Let’s say I build up some courage and interact with him for a while and then I ‘get a feeling’ that affection was not mutual, I withdraw myself from the endeavour and to a guy( if he is still interested) it may seem like I’m playing games. This whole thing leaves the guy hurt and he moves on. This happened to me recently. :-/

    • Great point Delphia, “Mostly because deep inside I’m shy to make my feelings flat out open for the guy I have ATTRACTION to. In a relationship I would open up my feelings easily. But not when I’m unsure of how he feels and would be embarrassed if he doesn’t have the same feelings towards me.”

      This happens on both sides and I can tell you the common advice given to both men and women, “Don’t reveal your true feelings until they do” is very complicated and one of the hardest things to understand because most people get stuck and confused waiting around for the actual words when ACTION means so much more.

      Perfect time because I’m just about to reveal this law of attraction in my newsletter. 🙂



  • Delphia

    YES. This is actually true. it is like everything written here is true about me. When I’m shy around a guy, It means I have that ‘click’ (the chemistry) which is attracting me towards him. More like there is some energy in him that is pulling me towards him. At that point I resist getting sucked into that pull. Which always looks like I’m shy. Funny thing is people notice that change in me. Even the guy whom I’m attracted to notices it. I am mostly normal with everyone except for that person I’m attracted to, I become quite when he is around. I take quick glances when he is not watching etc. BUT will deny it when asked. This is so true. LOL.

  • Mike

    It’s not just women who play games I like to play too I do get a lot of attention from women but where I’m at in life now I’ve decided to stay single as ive lost 3 children and had so many relationships turn bad Im just not ready for commitment or can’t be bothered with relationships atm I’m 32 and keep myself in excellent health and fitness but I still enjoy playing games and getting women chase me even though I’m not interested in it turning romantic or sexual it’s just part of life and just because a woman doesn’t like you or acts a certain way doesn’t mean she’s low life or a bitch, she’s simply just not for you, the secret in the chase is to filter out the yes maybes and nos and if you can’t do that start to learn how.

    • isabeky

      Oh wow aren’t you a stud woohoo