Do Women Hide It When They Are Attracted to You?

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Some say it’s in a woman’s best interest to hide her attraction for a guy. Would you say that’s true because if do you agree,  you might be misreading every woman which can and will have a long-lasting negative affect in actually creating that attraction, understanding women, and why they do the things they so beautifully do.

There was a time where I too believed women were actually keeping their attraction a secret from me and oddly enough, finding out I was wrong was one of the BEST days of my life.

Keep reading and I promise to tell you why, what it meant to my “dating” life, and what it’s going to mean in yours too.

Here’s the truth and it’s coming at you hard because I want to spare you a world of endless pain and suffering.

Very generally speaking it IS in a woman’s best interest to not pursue a guy. Women are always taught to NEVER chase a guy.

I’ve advised and talked to many of them who would rather die alone and single to ever make the first move or ask a guy out.

She (or they) can be a little coy when you’re confident and cocky and say things like this to them,

“Ha! You like me. I’m surprised you’re not my number one stalker by now. What’s taking you so long? Afraid of a little competition?”

To which she replies in the cute little way my wife always does with a sly cocky smile herself,


When it comes to flirting, sexually playing, pursuing, teasing – you know the fun little games men and women who LIKE each other do play – YES, she’s going to ACT like she doesn’t “want” it, but that is not HIDING it at all.

Not even in the slightest bit.

Here it is:

It’s literally impossible for a woman to hide her attraction to a guy no matter how hard she tries, and it’s NOT in her best interest so why would she even try.

The signs or signals or clues or whatever you want to call them are ALWAYS there.

Okay, before I get you too depressed it does happen, but they are the absolute exceptions to this “rule” and although I can’t think of them all, it still means there are only a few.

High school girls.

Could be a lack of confidence. Could be a lack of understanding of how it all works.

Mostly it’s towards a guy who she doesn’t feel good enough for and can not believe a guy like “that” would like her back – BUT once the interaction starts – again IMPOSSIBLE for her to hide it.

At Work.

She may secretly like a guy in another department or even her boss and it’s in her career’s interest to maybe not pursue it BUT again, once the real interactions start – the signs are ALWAYS there..

In the now famous words of David DeAngelo which is the title, “Attraction Isn’t A Choice

Attraction Isn’t A Choice!

What those words mean and how it relates to the “best day of my dating life” and why it has so much to do with the question of women HIDING their attraction is coming…

Imagine if you would, although as in my case you don’t have to imagine something you’re already experiencing or been through – that you really want some woman BUT you’re not sure she’s into you.

But just by chance you actually do something or tell her how you’re feeling and  you get rejected hard.

Banished to the friends zone or blatantly sent away holding your tail or in this case “dick” between your legs.

If you’re at all in the same mindset I was – you come up with a ton of excuses all centered around the belief the she does want you but for some reason she is either hiding it OR choosing not to feel something because of some stupid social thing going on.

(Like maybe you’re not rich enough, good-looking enough, dumb enough, you’re too nice, etc… Things you might believe in this post: Are These Myths About Women Standing Between You And Dating Success? )

However since Attraction is NOT a choice – that could not possibly be true.

The truth is she’s NOT feeling it and she’s trying to spare YOUR feelings or in some bad cases – get you away from her as quickly as possible.

Here are some more common examples:

You catch a girl staring at you and when you start talking to her she acts like she wasn’t and blows you off.

Was she hiding it?


She was probably looking at something else, staring into space you were occupying, or caught in some fantasy and you woke her up.

You’re good close friends with a girl and it feels like you’re always flirting.

It feels like you really connect with her and so, over time, you FINALLY say something and tell her how you feel (hoping she’ll say it back) and all you get back is the classic, “I’m sorry. I don’t want to ruin the friendship.” (This was my biggie by the way.)

Is your friend in that case hiding it?


No woman in her right mind who has been pining over her good or best friend, would ever turn down a guy she’s into that much.

It just doesn’t happen.

She wasn’t hiding it.

She didn’t want to keep her secret safe.

She just isn’t feeling ATTRACTED to you and want to let you down easy.

(Sorry, it sucks. I hear and feel you.)

Maybe you’re good friends and always flirting but for some reason when you get too close, she pulls away.

You hang out a lot and she’s always contacting you…

But is she hiding her attraction, hoping and waiting you’ll make a move?

How about when you meet a woman who is a little shy around OTHER guys but not you.

You’re quickly thinking there must be a reason for it.

She doesn’t talk to you like those “other” men.

Maybe she’s hiding it because she’s shy and you like the fact she’s a little shy and it feels good that she’s telling you things she wouldn’t DARE tell anyone else. She MUST be feeling attracted to you, right?


Read this when you get a chance: 10 Clear Signs She Has Put You In Her Friends Zone & Does She Like You?

If she’s opening up to you that easily, sharing all her thoughts especially about what she wants from men or what she struggles with in life AND she feels absolutely no reservations about telling you exactly what’s on her mind…

She’s even LESS likely to be hiding her attraction because it’s just NOT there.

You see most real women can not hide their attraction BUT they are extremely good at not doing stupid stuff like blowing it with a guy they are attracted to which to lots of men, feels like they’re keeping it a secret.

But in reality – they will withhold information from guys they’re totally into because like you, they don’t want to screw a good thing up.

The sad news here is – IF she’s telling you things which feels like she opening up, too much information,  past history about men, or anything which make you like her less – then she’s NOT worried at all if you like her or else she’d be smart enough to withhold that information until a later date.

(Sure some women do blow it here but it’s usually when they’re already on a date or something like that and if she’s already on date with you, then she certainly is interested and feelings something. Or else she would not have agree to it – well except for the free meal I suppose. By the way, the secret to avoid that happening to you is to never take a woman on a dinner date. Boom, problem solved.)

Which brings me to the next point – deeper emotional feelings for a guy.

When a woman is feeling something like a deep attraction for a guy, AND they’re dating – IF she’s not sure how the guy feels about HER – then of course she’ll be totally hesitant about revealing it until the guy says it.

BUT those are typically RELATIONSHIP feelings and her questioning whether you’re feeling them too.

She’s just not sure what you want from her.

She’ll think things like,

“Does he just want to have sex with me?”

“Is he just looking for a one-night stand?”

“Is he looking for a girlfriend, wife, a commitment?”

“Why can’t I figure out what this guy wants from me?”

“Is he really attracted to me?” etc…

Yet again – if she’s on a date with you she’s obviously not hiding her attraction.

In fact just her thinking like that makes it even HARDER for her to hide her attraction.

Quite literally IMPOSSIBLE.

She’s just trying to withhold her feelings of wanting something more with you UNTIL she’s sure you’re feeling the same way.

Let’s go back to the beginning here and get into why this is good news for you and why learning that women are not hiding their attraction became the BEST day of my dating life.

Starting with me – once I realized nothing was being hidden, that attraction isn’t a choice, how women could not hide it no matter how hard they tried…

I stopped wasting my time on friendships that would never turn into something more.

I got out of my head and started paying better attention to the subtle hints and clues which happen when a woman IS feeling attraction. (Something you’ll learn below.)

I stopped thinking or believing that just because a woman is opening up to me or talking to me differently than she does with other guys, that it meant she was attracted to me – because 99% of the time, it just wasn’t true.

AND then, with this little magical piece of advice, as from a favorite Seinfeld episode of mine, “This is pure gold, Jerry. Pure gold!!!”

Stop looking around for signals from women that they’re “interested” in you.

Stop CARING whether or not a particular woman is interested in you.

Instead, start TRIGGERING the interest, and watching to see if women ENGAGE.

If they do, then assume that IT’S ON!

How To Tell If She’s Interested? STOP looking for signals!

Finally – knowing all that and studying the HOW to make the triggering happen – it was like someone gave me CONTROL. Lots of control and power over my success with women and dating.

No more wondering, guessing, or sadly hoping I was right and she “really really did like me”.

No more wasting my time pining over women when nothing was there because I was positive without a doubt, that if I didn’t create it from the first interaction, it probably wasn’t there anyways.

It was like I had left behind all my failures with women, my past was clearly IN the past… leaving me with an unlimited amount of women in my future which could be easily brought to my present.

Granted my words are not perfect today.

Maybe today’s post isn’t the answer you were looking for.

Maybe you came by just hoping you were wrong and that hot girl you’ve had your eye on was hiding her attraction and you’d feel empowered to make a real move on her after reading it…

But hopefully for a few of you and possibly more…

TODAY is the start of something better and exciting very similar to what I experienced so long ago (shit I am getting old).

Now it’s your turn…

Get out of your head and start paying attention to all the subtle clues women WILL give you when they’re feeling attracted to you and know, without a doubt they ARE there because YOU CREATED THEM!

Woman Giving Signals of Attraction
There are many indicators of a girl’s interest in you. You just have to know where to look. The primary three are these:

  1. Actions (What she does that indicates her interest obviously)
  2. Words (what she says to you)
  3. Body language (what she does that indicates her interest subtly)

How to Tell If A Woman Is Interested In You

Please, if this is you, if anything you take away from all this today…

STOP wasting your time on friendships and hoping she likes you for whatever reasons you might believe that she’s hiding it from you.

Take it from a guy who spent almost a decade and a half of his life in many different “friend zones” with women.

They were not hiding anything from me.

They just didn’t like me “that way”.

Feel empowered yourself. Start taking action. Get control over these issues once and for all.

In conclusion…

It’s not really in a woman’s best interest to hide her attraction AND it’s practically impossible for her to keep it a secret.

There are plenty of “tells” and hints she gives up to an including how she responds and reacts to what you’re doing that is causing them.

She’s not choosing to feel something or not.

Just like you don’t look at a woman and think,

“Hmmm maybe I feel attracted to her.”

You either are or you’re not.

Plain and simple.

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Moving on.


Women may withhold information about her feelings for a relationship with with a guy until she’s sure he wants the same thing, but this only happens when you’re dating her or on a date where it’s obvious there’s a good reason she’s on that date with you.

The attraction part is not in question here.

Okay, there are exceptions and again you’re more than welcome to tell your story below or add on to the list BUT they are just that – rare exceptions not always worth the time and effort exploring for today’s purpose of believing a woman is hiding her attraction.


Asking this question about a friend of yours almost always means she’s not feeling it and you are “just friends”.

More than likely, astronomical odds are that unless you start doing something different with her – she does not or will not feel anything more.

She’s not hiding it from you because really, what would either of you have to benefit from being so close together, single, so connected, and yet not be willing to let the secret out.

Think about all this hard BEFORE you let this belief a woman is hiding her attraction to you sink too deep because, based on my failures with woman AND now my success with them – it’s best for your confidence, esteem, and success too to NEVER go there.

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  • franko

    there are just so many no good women anymore unlike years ago when they seem to be looking for men. but today, many of the women now don’t even want to be bothered at all. i seem to meet the nasty women that have an attitude problem, and are so very hard to start a conversation with. so how can a good STRAIGHT MAN these days meet a decent woman, now that many of them are like this? i am not doing anything WRONG on my part, and i just hope to meet a woman that doesn’t play games, and just hope that she can accept me for who i am. now many women today are looking for the RICH men instead, and it is very sad that the women have changed their attitude and many of them think that they are all that. since many women have very high paying jobs now, they think that they are high and mighty. that is why it was certainly much easier meeting women years ago, and they did not have the advantages that they have now.

    • Heather

      Wow! “Advantages”?! “We act all “high and mighty” if we have a “good paying job”? Gee I wonder what your problem is (sarcastic). Most women don’t want to date a sexist jerk so that is more than likely your problem.

    • Autumn

      Franko, reading your post made me want to respond with a few thoughts… I’m wondering a couple of things like what your age range is and the age range of the women you are interested in meeting? (You mentioned how dating used to be compared to now and the games women play/attitudes, etc). There may be some women out there who play games and read what they believe are “The Rules” to finding a certain type of man, but please don’t think MOST women are like that! Honestly, women who are ONLY looking for a wealthy man and who think they’re “all that” and who are difficult to talk to, and who play games probably aren’t the kind of woman you are looking for, IF you are looking for a relationship. There are plenty of nice women out there who are easy to approach, who want to get to know the man himself, (rather than the kind of car he drives or size of his bank account) and who won’t play a bunch of silly games. I think Peter has a very good point when he asked where you are going to try and meet women….that sounds like it would be a big factor, based on what you described.

  • jay says

    i seem to meet all the low life ones myself, and many of them are into other women now.

  • I understand. Playing games seems to be a big part of dating. But it’s actually always been that way. You have the good games and the bad ones too. It’s also my opinion that money – or security has always been on the top of a woman’s list with regards her future.

    And I used to let it get to me the same way Franko mentions above.

    Of course I will admit I never met too many “low lifes” as Jay mentions. Maybe I just saw them as not an option anyways so I never classified them as a dating option. Far as I’m concerned they could have been gay anyways.

    Now I’ve come to the conclusion or realization that “where” I meet women seem to make the difference in who they happen to be. Generally speaking of course.

    Where are you meeting all these women Jay? Maybe I can help you out.

  • epf

    Games, games, games… I don’t buy it. Maybe I’m too old for it, or realize that time is so short.. Or both. But I think if 2 people like each other, they should just be honest, express it and get on with starting a relationship. I don’t see the benefit of game-playing, aside from the sado-masochistic pleasure of mentally torturing yourself and/the other person. I think when you get older, you want to cut through the bullshit and get to the point. I like you, you like me, let’s get together and see what happens.. Simple. Life is too short. Carpe Diem.. Ditch the games. Just my two cents.

  • Thanks for sharing Epf.

    Always great hear everyone’s two cents.

    Since I’m a huge fan of “My Name is Earl” your comment reminded me of this song….

    Simple and to the point.

  • Tenshi

    Obviously, there are waay too many guys on this website and, for that reason, they can never truly get an objective understanding of woman hiding attraction. The truth is: she doesn’t have to be a horribly shallow and manipulative woman to hide her attraction. Perhaps she is emotionally insecure and does not truly wish to strike up a relationship because she does not feel confident in her abilities. It’s very narcissistic to think that she must be testing you or have some hidden motive for her to hide her emotions. Maybe she wishes she didn’t like you because she feels she’ll never be truly happy with you or because she’s not ready for a relationship. She doesn’t have to be playing games. By the way, many people are schooled in the art of self control, perhaps from meditation or even government regulations. Controlling one’s self is the best defense against traitorous emotion. Also, these men are also forgetting to analyze themselves. There may be something about you that makes this particular woman not want to pursue a relationship. I ask, please, that you think about all the negative things you may have said, especially the ones that implicate you as being a less-than-good person. Also, the advice you give about waiting for the other one to make a move is the same advice girls give to other girls. If they both do it at the same time, then I suggest no one even try to form a relationship; the advice would just be too futile. I don’t think any of the people mature enough to realize that people don’t just do things for games; reasons can be deeper and may not even be fully conscious. These horrible woman are called sociopaths, maybe even psychopaths; plus, you don’t seem so far off. Not everyone is a sociopath or a psychopath. If you truly aren’t fully there yet, would you consider some sort of psychiatric help?

    • Raul

      Ouch kindy mean girl. Women are no low life or bitches. I have notice that all women are more insecure than men. I had a few girls who have come up to me maybe 5 in my life. They were straight up, and new what they wanted and they got it. The other hundreds of girls i met. Were insecure. They would not get what they really want. Instead they waited for some guy to approach. Some play those stupid games. I would tell them i like to be with them. They come up with i dont have time right now or other bulshit excuse. I would politely tell them. To have a good night and im out. A few weeks later they will be calling and saying why i do not reach for them anymore. For all women reading this a true man will not fall for shit like this. Because by the time they call wondering what happened. Im already dating other girls. In conclusion. I feel sorry for most girls they do not get the man they desire instead they settle with the first guy who ask them out. For the guys do not focus on 1 girl. Date many at the same time and pick the best. Remember girls outnumber us 3 to 1. One more thing girls do not care if u have money. They care if i have balls to ask and get what u want.

  • rlsmith

    all these guys today moaning about ‘no good women left’ and ‘don’t like game-playing’…it’s a game, games are supposed to be fun. the only games you hate are the ones you always lose. stop losing and start winning. you guys are giving up before the game has even began. I used to be like that, until I acctually started to play the game and realized it’s super fun lol…the ‘no good women left’ mentality is cognitive dissonance, women are sexier today than ever before in human history, thanks to waxing strips, Chanel No5 and lipposuction 🙂 x

    • peter white

      So true Mister Smith. Let’s not forget about Yoga pants and leggings too.

      And yes, games are meant to be fun if you play the right ones. But I would have to say stop focusing so much on winning and start enjoying the moments they happen more.

    • Raul

      I disagreed games are for kids. U like playing games u need to grow up dude. When girls play games they seem so inmature a big turn off for me. I move to the next. The funny thing is they call u like crazy after u give them the cold shoulder. By that time is to late or if she is a babe fuck her and then dump her and date a woman not a girl.

  • Pauline

    Hi Peter, hi everyone,
    I think my testimonial is quite relevant here. I am a girl and have been living with a guy for more than a year now. I think there was mutual attraction from the start but no one said anything to the other. I didn’t dare because we are living together and I always feared that all was in my head and that I would be rejected – and then having to deal with the consequences as we are living together. I also saw him interacting with other women and seeing that he was flirting with them, I was kind of turned off and left wondering… if he really liked me he wouldn’t do that in front of me. So this also contributed to just make me want to keep everything for myself. The trouble is… my feelings haven’t gone away. I am trying to rationalize things and tell myself things like: well if he really liked me he would have done something now. Or: do I want to be with a man who isn’t even courageous enough to disclose his feelings?… But I think I know that the truth is he is not self confident enough to take that risk. So we’re both stuck, in limbo…
    In the meanwhile… I got to know one of his good friends who – I discovered recently – has had a crush on me for months but didn’t dare telling me – and finally did. A tall, good looking guy. I wanted/needed to “rock the boat” a bit so I started to go out with him. It is so simple… he is crazy about me and is already calling me his girlfriend after a month. I want to give this relationship a go as I feel it could lead to something but my feelings for this guy are nowhere near as strong as the feelings I have for the other guy.
    So yes, it’s true in my case anyway… I hate games, and the only reason I haven’t said anything is because I am shy and afraid of rejection. I don’t think I’ll ever be able to make the first step with a guy – the only time would be when I am 200% sure that the guy is interested and I have the absolute certitude that I won’t get rejected. Otherwise, no way…
    So now, people who see us together might think: it’s always the good looking guy who gets the girls, it’s not fair… but the truth is we’re only together because he made it clear he liked me. Otherwise I was happy to keep him as a friend as my focus was on someone else.
    Which leads me to a last thought I wanted to share… I find clever/smart/witty guys extremely sexy, even if their appearance might not be sexy at all according to today’s standards. I know one in particular. I think he thinks he has no chance with girls as he is not tall and not very good looking according to these so called standards… but he is one guy I’d be really happy to date if he had the courage to ask (if he were interested in me of course!).
    So it’s only my point of view and as you can see I am part of the “insecure” bunch of girls (and all the compliments I get from guys are not able to change that). I wish I were more self confident and able to tell a guy when I am attracted to him but it just doesn’t happen. And it’s a great source of suffering for me…
    Hope this helps!

    • peter white

      Thanks Pauline,

      It certainly does help. I appreciate you sharing it with us.


  • Charles

    Hi everyone 🙂

    Life is a toss of the dices for men and women both! Truth is men and women today are both of poor character and are not ready to care for someone other than themselves. I say to the men, get your life together so you are ready to give your female the security she wants and needs and be respectful to her feelings and she will return everything her man needs and much more! People are only half a person without their soul mate, there is only one in this life that can give you the deep connection and fulfillment we all long for. When you think you have it figured out something unbalances you to question it all! Everyone is looking in the wrong place for their mates these days, the source of all love comes from God 🙂 He is the answer but people want to do it on their own and why we make a mess of things. We all jump ahead, timing is Key! Above all things love is patient 🙂

  • yak

    On sum real stuff enjoy wealth family and money there realy the only love you need