Looks are important, just how important they are is certainly debatable. However, what matters most in attraction are APPEARANCES and communication. Today's focus is on appearances.
The standard advice is, no matter you have - do the best with it and maintain yourself in a way which says you CARE and put a high VALUE on yourself.
It's standard and effective because it works for just about anybody, AND there's absolutely no reason or valid argument I've heard which says you have to be extremely good-looking to be seen as "attractive" to women.
In other words, your appearance must convey a believe in yourself and that you place a high VALUE in who you are and how you wish to be seen by others.
This is not to be confused with general style, although it doesn't hurt to have a current or attractive unique style of your own.
IF you're failing with women all too often - showing a lack of care and value in yourself could be the reason why you're not even getting your foot in the door.
These type of rejections happen early on and most of the time, you might not even know it's happening to you.
If you believe women are giving you a chance at first but then reject you, then it's most likely your communication AND for today's post - the APPEARANCE of what you have around you such as the maintenance of your car, apartment, home, etc...
The solution to this problem is extremely simple and easy to achieve, yet most guys refuse to do something about it because they find it superficial and use this common excuse,
"If women are that much into looks, I'm not a good-looking guy, why would I even bother and/or I refuse to change my appearance for women who claim men are pigs, because we only are attracted to beauty and hot women."
BUT as stated above: It's not your overlook - it's your APPEARANCE that presents VALUE and BELIEF and a genuine CARE about yourself.
Those traits are highly sought out from women who are looking long-term (either as a boyfriend or husband) because they transfer over to your ability to maintain a relationship and a family.
When a guy is portraying to a woman that he can not function in life without those standards, then adding a girlfriend and possible family to that would and must be impossible...
Therefore you're overlooked for even a possible lesser guy than you just because he at least does have those traits and skills and CHOOSES to take care of himself.
So yeah - this problem seems small but it's a BIG one and not doing something about it will forever hurt, destroy, and stop any chance you have with a great woman.
I won't be getting into all the details on how to fix this problem because I've already done it on several pages.
Go through them one by one - some of the information is repeated but that's okay, this will make it much easier to remember them all.
Here are the pages:
These two will help you with your outward appearance...
This one will help manage your life which proves high value...
For this page, go directly to these numbers and get a different perspective on appearance...
#14 – Look the Part
#15 – More on Hygiene
#16 – Demonstrate Strong Body Language
#17 – Show a Confident Smile
#18 – Have High-Status Speech
#19 – Establish Strong Eye Contact
#20 – Develop the “Rock Star” Attitude
#21 – Lift Weights
#22 – Get More Cardiovascular Exercise
These next two will enhance what's already been stated and help you get a firm strong belief in yourself..
PLEASE do not let a little thing like this ruin your chances with women.
This is not about being good-looking, your looks do matter but they won't matter nearly as much, IF at all - IF you maintain the many aspects of your APPEARANCE.
This means average looking or even below men can succeed despite what feels like something you can not change.
Value yourself, care enough, display traits that make you capable of supporting a lifestyle a woman would be happy to be in.
SHOW women you can handle this part of life and she'll have proof you can manage her and a possible relationship too, up to even a family life.
That is why your appearance and the maintenance of your life matter so much to women.
There's no need for extremes here - just take care of the DETAILS and you're done.
Go through the pages above, check off what's on those lists, and this problem goes away giving more opportunities with women, less rejections before you even meet, less rejection after you do meet, and MORE CHOICES to choose the perfect women for you.
A few more articles you'll find useful on this subject:
- How to Attract Girls Even if You’re Short
- Too Ugly? Too Short? Here’s How To Turn Your Flaws Into Strengths
- Do Only Good Looking Guys Get Women?
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