Looks are important, just how important they are is certainly debatable. However, what matters most in attraction are APPEARANCES and communication.
Today's focus is on your appearance or what you "present" to women and the world.
The standard advice is always, no matter you have, you just have to do the best with it and maintain yourself in a way which says you care and put a high value on yourself.
It's standard and effective because it works for just about anybody and there's absolutely no reason or valid argument I've heard which says you have to be extremely good-looking to be seen as "attractive" to women.
In other words, your appearance must convey a belief in yourself that you conveys to others a high value in who you are and how you wish to be seen.
This is not to be confused with general style although it doesn't hurt to have a current or attractive unique style of your own.
IF you're failing with women all too often and showing them you don't care all that much about your appearance, this could be the exact reason why you're not even getting your foot in the door.
These type of rejections happen early on and most of the time, you might not even know it's happening to you.
If you believe women ARE giving you a chance at first but then reject you later, then it's most likely your style of communication or how you talk to them, but it also could be the appearance of what you have around you such as the maintenance of your car, apartment, home, etc...
So you'll have to look at that angle to if you want to know without a doubt why this is happening to you.
The solution to this problem is extremely simple and easy to achieve however if you're objecting to doing something about it, most likely it's because you believe it's superficial and you're trying to back out by using this lame excuse:
"If women are into looks that much and I'm not a good-looking guy, why should I even bother? I refuse to change my appearance for women who claim men are only pigs because we only are attracted to beauty and hot women. They're being hypocritical."
BUT as stated above:
It's not your overall look that matters, it's your APPEARANCE which conveys to others you RESPECT yourself, you hold yourself to a high VALUE and STANDARDS, and that you genuinely CARE about yourself.
They also show how you're effectively taking the time and making the effort to maintain it all too.
Those just happen to be the exact traits which are highly sought out from women who are looking for something long-term as in a boyfriend or husband because they transfer over to your ability to maintain a relationship and a family.
You can read more about not being a boyfriend or husband material right here:
This means women will quickly overlook you or choose a supposed lesser guy because at least he is taking care of the details that proves he'd make a better boyfriend.
So yeah - this problem seems small but it's a BIG one and not doing something about it will forever hurt, destroy, and stop any chance you have with a great woman.
I won't be getting into all the details on how to fix this problem because I've already done it on several pages.
Go through them one by one - some of the information is repeated but that's okay, this will make it much easier to remember them all.
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Here are the pages:
These two will help you with your outward appearance...
This one will help manage your life which proves high value...
For this page, go directly to these numbers and get a different perspective on appearance...
#14 – Look the Part
#15 – More on Hygiene
#16 – Demonstrate Strong Body Language
#17 – Show a Confident Smile
#18 – Have High-Status Speech
#19 – Establish Strong Eye Contact
#20 – Develop the “Rock Star” Attitude
#21 – Lift Weights
#22 – Get More Cardiovascular Exercise
These next two will enhance what's already been stated and help you get a firm strong belief in yourself..
PLEASE do not let a little thing like this ruin your chances with women.
This is not about being good-looking, your looks do matter but they won't matter nearly as much IF you maintain the many aspects of your APPEARANCE.
This means average looking or even below average men can succeed despite what feels like something you can not change.
Value yourself, care enough, display traits that make you capable of supporting a lifestyle a woman would be happy to be in.
SHOW women you can handle this part of life and she'll have proof you can manage her and a possible relationship too, up to even a family life if that's what you're look to get into.
That is why your appearance and the maintenance of your life matters so much to women.
There's no need for extremes here, just take care of the DETAILS and you're done.
Go through the pages above, check off what is on the lists, and this problem goes away giving you more opportunities with women, less rejections before you even meet, less rejection after you do meet, and MORE CHOICES to choose the perfect women for you.
A few more articles you'll find useful on this subject:
- How to Attract Girls Even if You’re Short
- Too Ugly? Too Short? Here’s How To Turn Your Flaws Into Strengths
- Do Only Good Looking Guys Get Women?
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