"Reasons for failing with women #21: Your Ex Girlfriend Was A Bitch And You Constantly Talk About Her – You Don’t Know How To Let Things Go And You’re Constantly Blaming Women and Others For Your Problems."
I've never had a REAL ex-girlfriend that I would complain about, (take note to the word real, that's for later) but I do know lots of guys who made some really bad decisions, or gone where they probably shouldn't have gone - and they got hurt, abused, or treated like shit.
Hey - we all make mistakes and that's okay - BUT if you let it get to you and dictate how you act around other women, you're going to find yourself failing with women constantly.
This is big time.
Constantly complaining to a woman you are attracted to and/or plan to date about your ex or even any woman YOU chose to get into a relationship with...
Relentlessly blaming women for YOUR problems.
If you're doing one or both of those, no matter WHO you're talking to, friends, family, or dates, you WILL find yourself not being liked by the majority of real quality women.
You wouldn't want women to complain about their ex boyfriends or lump guys into the "all men are assholes" category, or refuse to take responsibility for their actions and choices, so do NOT do it yourself.
It's not worth it. It's counter-productive. It's not healthy.
It's extremely unattractive, annoying, and petty.
NEVER talk about your ex especially if you have bad feelings for her.
NEVER compare the girl you’re dating or want to date to your ex unless you’re doing what you can to avoid dating someone like her – but that should only happen in your head as you qualify for your next relationship.
NEVER bitch, whine, or complain about your past experiences with women to another potential date.
STOP blaming THEM for your problems, choices, and decisions.
The past bounces off of you.
It’s NOT a big deal.
You CAN handle worse things than this – therefore you’ve got this covered.
THAT is the attitude you want.
If the past comes out, just say, “It didn’t work out.” and end it there.
You see it’s not that you’ve made a past mistake which tells her you might not be a viable option in her dating life – it’s the fact you won’t let things go.
That if she dates you and things go bad – you’ll talk shit about her too, and that your choice in past relationships make her feel like you're also bound to make a bad choice in her - which makes her feel like YOU won't ever think she's good enough for you.
It also shows others that you’re more into the blame game, and are not willing to take responsibility in your life – which is a very un-attractive trait to have and women won’t like you for it.
Be honest with yourself.
No one MADE you date your ex.
YOU made that choice so get over it and move on.
Use it to look for someone better and to not make the same mistake again, but all that stays in your head where it belongs. It's up to your brain to figure out how to learn from the past positively, and to move on in the most healthy way you can.
The GOOD news is – if she really was a bitch – you know EXACTLY what to look for AND avoid with the next one.
The BAD news is - WHY didn't you see it coming?
What didn't click in your head that told you it wasn't going to work out?
What made you overlook some obvious character flaws in her pr any of them from the past, that made you go for it anyways?
Was it the sex? Her looks?
These are questions you need to answer now to figure out where this unfortunate mouth vomit about your ex comes from, and until you do, I fear it will continual to haunt you and ruin your chances with an amazing woman.
After you comes to grips with that...
Learn to qualify the next one better and more attractively so you can put this whole bullshit affair in your past... forever.
This post will show you how:
Use that past experience to make your dates more fun and less of a bitch-fest. You’ll be much more attractive in her eyes when she senses this strength and because you’re not so willing to reveal what actually happen – she will wonder more and instantly start to think WHY would another woman dare to let a great guy like you go.
That's a key angle to look at all this from:
Instead of bringing up the past and living there, get the NEXT woman to realize she would not do anything to let you go.
I'm not saying to make her act all tentative or worried around - just get her feeling like you're different, unique, special, attractive, and a guy she wants in her life more often than not.
Here's something From Scot McKay which can help you eliminate this problem forever...
Different girl… SAME RELATIONSHIP.
Does that ring a bell?
In other words, you keep breaking up with women (or getting broken up with BY them) but history keeps repeating itself.
You may even have started believing ALL women are the same, and you’re ready to give up the fight.
Or how about this?
You really, seriously DO have a woman in your life who you’d love to make plans with for the future, but you honestly have NO idea where you stand.
You’re not even sure you TRUST her, let alone know what’s going on in her head.
You don’t want to let something so potentially great with her slip away, but you just don’t have the answers to make things right with her.
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