"Reason For Failing With Women #5 - You Were Too Indecisive – You Can Never Make Your Mind Up About What To Do With Women or In Your Life too!"
Being indecisive as a trait or common habit will ALWAYS be an unfortunate factor in lessening a guy's overall attractiveness to women.
If you have trouble deciding many things on the first date, getting that first date or phone number, calling, texting, starting conversations, etc.. and continue to be that way...
You’ll find lots of women will either start not liking you quickly after you meet or not even give you a chance from the beginning.
Indecision IS unattractive and many men who are found to be attractive (regardless of his physical appearance) tend to be more decisive and make decisions confidently and consistently.
Why is indecision so unattractive?
- It displays lack of confidence and a belief in oneself.
- It appears to others as a form of being needy with slight desperation.
- It shows traits of being an approval seeker.
- It demonstrates a lack of experience or is believed to be a sign of it.
- It makes others feel that you have little confidence or belief in them.
- It's the mark of a very insecure man.
- It's generally considered a sign of weakness or a beta-like trait.
- And more...
The simplest and easiest way to overcome this problem that is causing many of your failures with women is a no-brainer (helpfully stated or not):
BE more decisive in many areas of your life and the problem, as it relates to women, will take care if itself.
And NO, it's not easier said than done.
I wouldn't go so far as turning yourself into Jim Carey in the movie "Yes Man" but IF you start saying yes to more things you've hesitated or said no to in the past, you WILL become more decisive... Guaranteed.
For many years I was a classic "NO MAN" and it not only limited my social life, gave me way too much time to overthink things, made me boring and predictable, AND it certainly limited my appeal to most women.
Once I made a conscious choice to be more determined and to start saying yes to things (despite how tired or time pressed I was) everything finally started to come together.
That act alone made me more decisive because it taught me to calm down my over-thinking and deep analysis of everything, and to actually just DO things - within reason of course.
This is the easiest and simplest way to rid yourself of indecision...
STOP thinking so much about outcome, enjoy yourself in the moment more, revel in the process and not the results.
START thinking about the benefits:
More fun, better quality of life, more robust social life, meeting more women, AND being seen as an attractive confident guy who won't make the call quickly when it's necessary.
Consider the great quote below,
"Why NO Decision Is the WORST Decision
Opportunities will pass you by. Eventually, others will just decide FOR you – kind of sucks. I don’t know about you, but I like the idea of making my own decisions.
Being indecisive just screws everything up. No, really…
New research from the University of Toronto looked at how decision making impacts the quality of life.
Now, the study focused on people with OCD. But what they found was very interesting..
The OCD factor was completely irrelevant. Indecisiveness can predict your quality of life even if you have no other OCD symptoms at all.
The conclusion of the researchers? Indecisiveness is an important factor that determines your quality of life.
The more trouble you have making decisions, the unhappier you’re likely to be. So, learning how to make smart decisions quickly… is a smart decision!"
Clear, concise, smart decisions makes you HAPPY and when you're happy you WILL attract women who are happy too PLUS even more happy to be around you.
Those are certainly benefits you can not argue which makes FIXING this problem a must.
Here's your round-about plan to get you started aside from the first step covered above and some common objectives you'll need to overcome.
FIRST - Confidence.
If you have it - you WILL be more decisive, so go get it, no excuses:
I can see how if you're not sure if something is going to work with a woman you'll be hesitant and more fearful of rejection thus fairly incapable of "pulling the trigger.
Confidence takes care it that for you AND it's one of the most highly attractive traits in the world.
SECOND - A lot of this indecision also comes from not knowing what to do next.
"Not Knowing Exactly What To Do In Each Situation With Women.
A woman ALWAYS knows what you’re thinking. Women are approximately TEN TIMES better than men at reading body language.
I know, it might be hard to believe. But for example, if you’re out on a date with a woman, and you want to kiss her, she knows it.
And if you don’t know exactly what to do and exactly HOW to kiss her, and you just sit there looking at her and getting nervous, she won’t help!
And this goes for ALL aspects of women and dating…
Approaching a woman, getting her number, asking her out, kissing her, getting physical… everything.
If you don’t know what to do in each situation, you will probably screw it up… and LOSE EVERYTHING.
And you KNOW it.
It is VITALLY important that you know EXACTLY how to go from one step to the next with a woman… from the first meeting, all the way to the bedroom."
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THIRD - Your fears, they HAVE to GO!
If you’re always afraid of not making the right decision you’ll always be hesitant and you’ll will always look indecisive.
Listen nobody, including women are going to like everything about you. Women are also not going to like or care for every decision you make...
AND that is okay man.
STOP worrying about so much about it.
If you focus on creating attraction women will overlook lots of it. Trust they're not some squeamish creatures who run and hide.
As long as you're not overly demanding or some ass bent on controlling her and every aspect of every minute you're with her - if she's feeling "it" for you, she'll get over it and will definitely respect you more for putting your neck out these regardless of the outcome.
If you're worried about, rejection, this will help. I promise:
Figure out what you have to do to eliminate lots of your fears around women and you WILL become more decisive.
Your fears will hold you back. Your fears will bind you up. Your fears will stop you from making real-time decisions...
AND your fears will ALWAYS stop you from becoming the most attractive guy you can be - and yes, you will fail consistently with women the more of them you have, especially around women.
I'm not going to get into all of it here, it's way too long and much too specific to the individual.
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FOURTH: Dating is one thing but living YOUR life is another thing which means HAVE A PLAN in your life.
Don’t wait or let others make your decisions.
Take the risks.
If you’re decisive in your life you WILL be decisive around women too.
Seriously, this simple step is so often over-looked it's scary.
I'm not saying to get a life, unless that's needed of course...
Just DEVELOP A PLAN for your life, work on your future, manage the course of your existence in a way that is productive and enjoyable.
This may be the second single thing you do (confidence must never be overlooked as an attractive trait) that can eliminate this problem forever.
She doesn't care what you do and it won't matter much to real great women...
IF you have some sort of real goals and are ACTIVELY making it a responsibility in your life to achieve them.
You want to work at McDonald's flipping burgers?
I don't care!
Just show some passion, some resolve. Make it YOUR plan to cook the best fucking burger each customer ever had in their life and don't you even care if they know you're doing it for them.
Do it because it's your plan.
Talk about it with her.
Show some passion.
Get all fired up about how you almost started a grease fire because you had 20 burgers to make and no time to let the grill open up.
I'm completely serious - although I DO wish for you to have greater aspirations than that - but who cares IF that's your wish... do it!
Think of Harold & Kumar Go to White Castle. Yeah - great comedy, laughed my ass off even after watching it several times.
They HAD a mission, a goal, and on that mission they learned a lot and became much different people at the end.
Sure, getting high and eating some unhealthy shit may not be a great mission BUT notice things like this happen in real life to real people all the time...
AS long as they have a goal and are hell-bent on achieving it - what meets them along the way ALWAYS grants them something women just find irresistibly attractive.
Develop a plan. Learn from the process. Let it do its work for you.
It DOES work.
This is EXACTLY why I wrote, "your round-about plan" earlier in the post:
You will grow your confidence along the way.
You will be learning what comes next and stay ahead of the game.
You'll be facing many of your fears which will eliminate lots of them.
You WILL be developing a decisive personality and WOMEN WILL LOVE IT about you!
Your real FIRST step in overcoming your INDECISION problem is to stop being so on-the-fence about fixing this problem because it's a BIG one.
Women (and people for that matter) are just not attracted or like to deal with OR care to get close to someone who:
- Just can't make up their mind.
- Are more concerned with being wrong than just making the call.
- Are more worried about being liked than upsetting a few.
- Are so afraid of taking responsibility they leave the decision to someone else. (In a woman's case her decision will be not feeling or choosing you.)
- Acts like Chidi Anagonye on The Good Place. I had to throw that one in.
- Don't believe in themselves and their decisions.
- Don't trust others will be okay with the choices made.
- Don't chase experience and life and have a plan for their life.
In other less nice words...
Get to fixing it and stop sitting around waiting for the change to come - MAKE it happen yourself because THAT is a clearly decisive ACTION of an attractive man.
I'm decisively ending this post right now!
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Movies / Sitcom in Post:
- Yes Man - See on Amazon.
- Harold & Kumar Go to White Castle - See on Amazon.
- The Good Place - See on Amazon.
- The Good Place - Details on IMDb.
- Harold & Kumar Go To White Castle - Info at IMDb.
- Yes Men - Listing at IMDb.
Related articles about failing with women:
- Ten Reasons Why Men Fail With Women
- The Ten Reasons Why HIGHLY INTELLIGENT Men Fail With Women
- What Women HATE Most About Single Guys
- Are You Like This Guy? If So You’ll NEVER Get A Woman
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